i don't really have any friends

i hang out with people but i don't feel like they're proper friends - there isn't anyone i know that i regularly make plans to do stuff every week or just talk on the phone with. it's always the occasional party, get together or movies but i don't really have a close bond with these people.

for the better part of my life i've always felt an existential lonliness even when i'm engaged in social activities around other people because i've never felt that there was someone i could truly be honest about things like my problems, and not trivial ones. for one year i was close friends with someone but we've moved apart. there probably isn't any solution to this, after all, man is a lonely creature, and i've pretty much accepted this.. but it would be nice if there were people who know what im talkin about!

>>1
I be your friend
"CHEER UP EMO KID ;)

>>2
i aint no emo.  think im just an inrovet

Yeah, same here.  Talking to yourself helps.

     So what.  I don't have many friends either.  I just don't like people, tend to toy with them 2 much, am too much of a smart ass for my own good, and am not very charasmatic.  get on with your fucking life.  if you want more people to like you just go the fuck out and meet them.  Stay off the internet for a while, it's lousy for your social skills.  get a life and stop bitching.

i would kill your self......

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Wow, I felt the same situation. And now that I've read you have the exact same problem as me, I feel less about myself because I was hoping my problem was unique.

So thanks. You've made me feel worse!

>>1
I know what you're talking about.

everybody has the same problem. case closed, get over it and enjoy life while you can. pussies

>>5
Yeah, I agree with 5.  Who cares if you don't have friends. I don't.  It doesn't matter.  People will try to make you think that it matters, but it doesn't.

Most people think they have friends... when they actually don't! Go mix in new circles and meet new people. Get a new job or move somewhere different. Changes bring new things.

I always like to have one or two close friends... its just a matter of opening up and being assertive rather than just being the guy that kind of hangs around. Finding friends with similar hobbies helps...

actually it's more that i cant talk about personal things to anyone than having enough friends. i guess what im saying is that i dont have a close friend, and to me that is what matters.

having close friends is impossible. most people don't really care about 'friends', they just want someone who they can talk about shit with for a little while, and who will be there if they ever need to fall into the depths of despair.

l2p

My best friend is a girl I'm in love with. Its sad.

>>15
That is sad? Hell, that was the best time of my life. I had it that way for a while, the only thing better is marrying that best friend. It's only sad when that doesn't happen because people have some fucked up idea that friends can't get married.

STFU AND GTFO FUCKING EMOS

Here's my deal,

I'm a charming guy.  Funny, witty, sarcastic, blah blah; all the good stuff.  I know lots of people and I know how to talk to girls really well.
But I only have one real friend.  And since he moved away I'm virtually alone in the world.
Does it suck?  Not really.
I've found that most people really aren't very interesting, nor do they make for good friends.
Quality over quantity is the rule here.

>>16
Hey dude, he said that HE loved that girl. That doesn't necessarily mean that the girl loved him back!

>>18
that's just the thing. knowing lots of people isnt very fufilling, nor is having a 'bangin social life'. it's much better to be recognised for and understood as who you actually are as opposed to the pleasant public face you put out. i am not a child molestor who wants to embraced, but i am a 4channer with unconventional tastes! i can't spout off about my fucked up interests to people around me without the risk of being offensive. but here it's ok..

>>17
people who use the e word as an insult need to be locked up in a cell circa 1999. i'm sick to death of seeing it everywhere.. get with the times, you laggard.

>>21
STFU AND GTFO FUCKING EMOS

>>20
very true. a bangin' social life consists of sitting somewhere with people, getting wasted, and doing essentially what you would have been doing by yourself. NOTHING.

repeat
repeat
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so much more can be achieved when you're loning it, though it is nice to have people who you can call up when you need a little change of scenery.

back to the drawing board.

>>23
STFU AND GTFO FUCKING EMOS

>>23

Friends are for more than you think. If you're horney you can get them drunk and give them anal.

>>23
i know what you mean. i've found that when people are hanging out in groups they're not even interested in other people, mainly its the superficial small talk, then trying to attract the attentions of those of the opposite sex, and being concerned with self image (what does so and so think of me? do i look okay?)

people are talking to each other, but not in any meaningful way.. either as a social buffer or simply to kill time. it's kind of why i don't bother going out these days. i'm not really getting anything out of it except a forgettable memory.

>>25
is it just me, or is that statement just a little depressing? there should be more to friendship than just being a cock receptacle:<

>>27

Oh, you'll take it. You'll take it and you'll like it.

>>27
mods this post contains sexual innuendoes and it is disturbing.. EEK! :< *rocks back and forth*

know what cha mean i have people i see more like aquantinces but there not actually friends

>>16
I know. It worked for me.

>>16
Get married? It's one of the most pointless and retarded things ever. It only makes sense if you are irattional, which is why most women want to do it. Stop being a faggot, thanks

wow flamers suck, just because you people are pissed about life and dont care what happends to your self jeez dont have to take out on people who want to actually make friends, bet you want to too just because you want to look like the tough guy who doesnt care.

>>1
Chances are, if you get out of the house and do something else that you like to do, someone will take some sort of intrest in it and ask you about it.  Viola!!  A conversation is born. 

Keep doing that (hobby) + keep meeting the same people = friends with similar intrests. 

So, if you like videogames, and I know you do, go out to an arcade.  You'll see people, hopefully get a conversation started and have something like a friendship start to grow.  But you have to keep at it.  Making friends isn't easy.  Believe me, I know.  But once you have them, you'll look back and it will all seem so effortless.  And it gets easier the more you do it.  So good luck grasshopper.

Hmm, how does this work for a PC Gamer? Lans?? I guess that's the only alternative.

>>34
i don't have too much trouble finding people. it's just that it's not really satisfying.

Even lifeless emo otaku have other lifeless emo otaku friends, so you should also.  unless you are actually claiming you are a lower form of life than a lifeless emo otaku, in which case just die and get it over with.

You also gotta remember where they live. It's harder other places

No one around here likes computers much at all. It's a pretty stuck-up place full of jock types, goody-goodies, or hardcore pot smoking hippies. I was browsing 4chan and watching anime for a lot of my life, but pretty much no one else shares my interests. All the stuff I loved when I was a kid now is pretty commonplace.. Everyone has a computer with the Internet now. Everyone knows what anime is. More than half the stuff my little sister watches on kids TV is anime these days.. Castle in the sky, Spirited away, pokemon, etc etc etc. It's all over the place now. Tons of people play computer games like WoW.

Too bad I'm too lazy to go out and meet any of them. My old friends didn't do any of the stuff I did.. They mostly hung out, went to parties, and smoked weed. Our only things in common were the bands we liked.

It isn't really about having "friends" it's about having the "right" friends. A good friend is something you'll never replace with anything. Don't ever think not having a friend is a good thing. You'll just end up nice and lonely.

>>39
of course not having a friend is not a good thing.  you're absolutely right about having the 'right' friends- the only problem is that they are very hard to find. the right friend is someone who's willing to put as much effort in the friendship, is as much interested in discussing common topics, values your company.. i've met so many people with a take-it-or-leave-it attitude; if you're there you'll get along fine but they won't bother organising things or getting in touch unless you do it.

>>40
>>i've met so many people with a take-it-or-leave-it attitude; if you're there you'll get along fine but they won't bother organising things or getting in touch unless you do it.

I'm like that a lot I guess. Or I used to be. I had some of the greatest friends anyone could want, but gave them up for something stupid like online games and the Internet in general. These days I don't have my friends anymore. What I gave them up for? Nothing that I care about anymore. That must sound pretty stupid, but I know I'm not the only one like that. Never hide stuff from your friends. Let them in on what you do and they might even enjoy it and partake in it with you. Instead of keeping everything to yourself and doing something you'll regret later. This isn't a pitty party or anything though. I'll admit that I deserve to be friendless now.

>>41
it's not that hard to make a phone call to see how someone's been lately. i suppose you kind of need to care, too, or its pointless. anyway, i agree with your post. a lot of people arent interested in getting to know others on a deeper level because hey, they know so many people already.

the more i think about it, the more i realise that cities and urbanisation keep people from making friends. these days we have tons of contacts and few close friends.
in the old days of primitive societies we had a primary group of adults who stuck by each other for life, and the members knew each other on core levels.
today the only way adults can truly know one another is by marrying someone, and the rest of the time our social interaction is just superficial flitting between one person and another. it's quite sad.
we're all spread out but crowded with strangers, and unable to invest our time in forming close bonds based on loyalty and familiarity.

Long post is long, but since I've been through this and seen the other side I wanted to share since it might help >>1 and others do the same.

This was my life in HS and it sucked.  I was lucky enough to change that when I got to college, but honestly you either need a major life event or some real perseverance to pull this off.

Landing a big job you always wanted will do it.  Quitting and taking a job doing something else because you're unhappy might not.  Getting involved with a church group or service organization planning a big event and having it be a huge success can do it.  Showing up just for regular meetings (like being in a bible study or being a regular member of a community service group that's just doing, say, recycling) probably won't.

Why is this?  Major life events tend to drag you out of the kind of sulk you wind up in when you don't feel like you have close friends.  That's really key, because not having enough social interaction kills whatever energy or outgoingness you have.  It's like depression, only social instead of clinical.  Get over that and you discover that other people take more interest in you -- after all, what they want out of life is to have a group of friends who understand them too.

right now i think many people cant make true friends, many just use others, greed right now ruins lives, maybe im the only on in my whole city who doesnt care about money, most of the people here only care about money, they use others. i cant make any true friends with people who do that, i know i been used many times for help and HW in school. i think we cant make any friends any more, not true friends any way

i don't have friends, but that's because i don't want any. :O

>>That's really key, because not having enough social interaction kills whatever energy or outgoingness you have.

Agreed. I think that's a lot of the problem with some people. They give it up for a bit and just give up caring. It's really sad too. I used to be one of those people who thought I was different. I told myself that I didn't need any friends. This thinking will only get you stuck in a larger hole than you're already in. Some people can't make friends easily because they aren't outgoing enough, or things like the computer suck up all their interest. They tell themselves they don't want friends because they've come to realize that making friends requires them to act, and they just don't care. They'll either someday realize what they're missing, or they'll end up a selfish empty shell of a human. Human interaction.. Remember what it's like?

As for making "good" friends you just have to use your intuition. You'll know if they're only using you.. If they are, drop them like a bad habbit. I'm not young anymore and I don't have the luxury of being sheltered and protected by my parents. My thinking has also changed a lot. I guess you could say it matured and I got a lot less selfish than I used to be. I'm not sure what more I could ask for than a good friend at this point.

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