It's a hard thing to do, but me and my lover has now agreed to enter an abusive relationship. Instead of seeing her beat herself up, eating too much, being depressed about feeling worthless, I'm going to be the one to punish her existance and bully her. I hope I can do it, because if I won't do it, she will, and she's far more destructive than me.
Yes, and a very fine get it is.
A cat is fine too. >>3 >>3
Same poster.
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VIPPER2007-02-17 21:06
Umm...Guys arn't allowed to hit women. Its a mental law that should be implanted in every mans head.
Try talking.
Try arguing
Try not to bully her.
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VIPPER2007-02-17 21:16
I tried talking and arguing, but she seems too far gone. I wish I could send her to military school instead.
Hit her? I don't know if I would dare to even slap her - she's ill-tempered, highly emotionally unstable, and stronger than me. I'd be asking for a beating myself.
...but if that's what it takes for her to quit blaming herself, I'd do it if only I could.
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VIPPER2007-02-17 22:27
She has deeply-rooted problems that need to be dealt with. Don't take the emo faggot path and give in, or just not do anything at all. You've got to figure out a way to help her--and if you find yourself too stupid, well, then you aren't right for the job.
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VIPPER2007-02-17 22:34
>>6
Why wouldn't the "emo faggot path" help her? I'm smart enough to see how it could work. Are you?
My good sir, if she and yourself believe that the only way to help her is to enter into a ...mutually agreed abusive relationship... then one or both of you should seek professional help.
Actually I'm being totally serious. You should talk to a therapist. They're not scary, and you aren't "crazy" if you talk to one. Too expensive? Just try two sessions, then decide if it's something you want to spend money on. Above all, just talk to someone. Your parents, her parents.
PS: Lol serious business on 4chan. I only came here to ask if 420chan.org was up ;_;
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VIPPER2007-02-18 0:01
>>9
Yes, I'd love to get her to go to a therapist, but I can't make her, so if she really doesn't want to talk to one, I'll have to resort to other measures on my own.
...but in general, if my method is sick, so are the therapists methods: You can't understand them, so you condemn them.
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VIPPER2007-02-18 1:18
>>10
What I assumed. That is why I (>>6 but not >>9) suggested you THINK (not trying to insult you) on how to help her yourself. If you actually care about her, you'll try to figure out how to get her better than give into her problems and start fucking beating her. Not only would that be the easy way out, it would also be unfortunate and ultimately destructive of you. If you can't figure it out on your own, then you should start thinking on how to have her get help from someone else.
Or if you don't care about her that much and secretely want to hit her, whatever. There's no philosphy behind it.
But if the former case is true: in all honesty, good luck man. 4chan obviously isn't a place to expect good, non-destructive advice, but here it is. Help the girl out.
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VIPPER2007-02-18 5:49
>>11
Being mean to her would be the hardest thing I'd have to do, so it's really not an easy way out. Also, abusive relationships doesn't have to include violence, and I don't intend to beat her - just insult her and not care about if she gets hurt.
You'll have to understand that this girl isn't normal, that she responds to things differently. She's been raised by bullies all her life, and have come to depend on them. It's simple reverse psychology: I'll relieve her of her self-criticism.
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VIPPER2007-02-18 20:17
>>12
If being mean to her is the hardest thing you could do, then why have you already chosen it over something counter-destructive, like helping her? If you think she can't be helped, you're either making up an excuse because it's too hard for you to care about, or you simply can't figure it out--in both cases, you should figure out some way for someone else to. If you don't WANT to help her, if you'd rather be mean to her than ACTUALLY improve her life, then just say so, and stop pretending you care about her.
Being mean to her just because she WANTS YOU TOO would be like giving a beer to a person whom you know to be an alcoholic just because it's easier than figuring out how to get him better.
If you're going to reply to this saying I don't understand her, that I don't understand her situation, go ahead. But after you do that, read my posts again. IF you care about her, you'll come up with something better than what you already have. Or if you're a self-centered faggot fuck, you won't listen to me, you won't help her, because it's JUST TOO DAMN HARD!!! Fuck, I hope not.
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VIPPER2007-02-19 7:12
>>1
If your gf doesn't want to go to a trained professional ie. cousellor, shrink, you could try getting professional advice from them proxy. I'd also suggest you apply their suggestions while minimizing your gf's suspicion.
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VIPPER2007-02-19 9:09
>>13
You are assuming that an abusive relationsship is always destructive, and can never be constructive, but I think abuse can be constructive in many ways, one of them being to provide her space to grow positive thinking. If I tell her positive things, she takes on the role of being the one to tell herself negative things while desperately looking for negative interpretations of what I'm saying. "I like you.", "Shut up.", has been a common exchange between us. She can't handle praise and so she needs to feel miserable to feel mentally stable. She needs to instead grow praise from within, and she can only do this if she feels safe and in control of the praise, sheltered by abuse.
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That's a good idea, but unfortunately shrinks doesn't give advice by proxy.
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VIPPER2007-02-19 9:31
>>15
HEY YOU DUMB BITCH, YES YOU. GO BACCK AND SUCK YOUR BF's DICKS WIL YOU. FUCKING SLUT FACE BITCH
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VIPPER2007-02-19 16:08
>>15
Whatever. Just remember my advice. I really hope you don't fuck this up.
>>17
Im going to get some Woman Comfort.Its going to be good. AND, im going to get some sex too. While im going to be nakkid and warm with her in bed nakkid. Im going to love it. And were going to purr like baby kittens ALL NITE!
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VIPPER2007-02-19 16:37
And abusive Relationship is not a good thing. You are Honestly, Just one hell of a loner who dosnt want to come forth with her vague insanity. AND ADMIT SHE NEEDS A MAN LIKE ME, AND WANTS TO BE WITH ME WHO WANTS TO INDULGE HER MIND WITH MINE, BUT NO. But no.. you sit there... watching so closly. You have bad relationships with people thats fine. But not with me. NOT WITH ME.. maybe sometimes. But not all the fucking time. And when i say sometimes, i mean minimal scale, not to be taken full advantage of.
And if you. Really love this man, be his god damn girfriend, act LIKE IT.
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VIPPER2007-02-19 16:40
Since Day one, since you entered his life of existance. You have made him feel more miserable, more lonlier and insane than ever before. Thats the god honest truth, You have made me feel so trap point it would sicken any man to death. Youve made it clear in my mind that you are the one for me. But how long are you going to sit there and be stupid and retarded about it. I am a perfectly capable man, and i am an honest person i would not break your heart, i would definently tend to it, knowing the kind of person you are, and that would make me feel happy.
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VIPPER2007-02-19 16:46
the possibility is there that we are exactly what we are both looking for that we will see in each other
and i cant love you enough for knowing that.
but it just wont work if you dont want it to happen
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VIPPER2007-02-20 4:12
>>16 >>20 >>21 >>22
Uhm, you DO know that she isn't here, right?