The Theory of Love

Alright, I've been told numerous times that love is indescribable. In a worldly sense, I believe love is a false ideology, mainly because of all these nymphomaniacs, rapists, etc. I may seem pessimistic, but that is what I believe. The world is so corrupted and plagued by such primitive beings who indulge in sex and such. Those who marry for money and a great sex life, not for companionship or devoted trust to ones spouse. From a pyschological perspective, these traits defines males and females, as well as from my point of view. Males: Possesive, arrogant and chauvanistic, and at times deceptive. Females: Majority of the time deceptive; greedy. Love is but a simple fragment in this world. It holds no true value, because people fail to recognize it and act on it. They just care about themselves. Their own indulgences. I'm asexual because of these very same reasons and more. Relationships, sex, and marriage ALWAYS lead to problems, and the majority of the time, divorce ensues or maybe even death. I deny my primitive "instincts" and think out of the box instead of the "normal" individual. Why bother when one can avoid these unecessary anamolies? Lust is usually dominant. Love is underminded, thrown out. It usually about sex. I have plenty of other reasons why I do not like either gender as well. Males: AIDS, STDS, immoral, societal rejection. Females: deception, STDS. I supress my hormones. I reject their lustful manipulation. And I'm not insinuating that love does not exist, only that it's presence is but a fragment in the world, and in the hearts of humanity. This is my theory. Opinions?

>>11
Nice guy syndrome, yup. Good thing some girls actually like being treated like a princess. I don't see many like that though.
>>12 she was my silent motivation.
Absolutely. That has worked for me too over the years. That's why I say love is just like a higher level of trust and friendship.
>>12 How many have fallen in love, and gotten hurt for it?
Never got hurt by it. Only 13 year olds and fools get "hurt" by trusting and believing in their real friends. If a "friend" or girlfriend or whatever proves they are not trustworthy they are not your "friend" any longer. It's their loss, not yours. THEY ruined the friendship. You can't be sad you lost a total bitch as a friend, and if she turns out to be one, then your incorrect assumption was just that--wrong. Rational, logical thinking will understand that a bad friend is no friend at all. Feelings and hormones don't care, that's why they are worthless.

Feelings drive you to feel attracted to someone you can't trust, or even go so far as to "love" someone you hate. We've heard that, right? It's hormones, brain stuff, whatever. Trust is not based on feelings, it's based on logic and experience.

>>12 Love is something that everyone wants to attain, it makes you feel good, feel special, and it brings out qualities you never knew you had.
True on most accounts. It is "special" only in the sense that it's rare and basically a show of the best of humanity. It does make you "feel" great, but again, if that feeling can't be backed up with logical, cold hard facts, forget it. And yeah, it does make you do things you never thought you could before. That's why I quoted the motivation line. A good friend is a strong motivation to do good for them. It only makes sense to repay good with good. Notice how it's all logical?

>>13
Hell yeah, you're right on all of that. Relationships are mostly based on sexual attraction and irrational feelings at first. That's why only couples who have been together for a long time are my source of advice. They always simplify it to a solid friendship, a tried and tested one. All friends/couples will fight and argue and disagree. So saying that love is bad because those things happen is like saying friends are bad. Love is a deeper sense of friendship, basically a permanent one. And yes, that causes a lot of problems. I have to admit to the difficulties involved to being married. But because I can raise a family and have someone who works together with me, for the same goals, I find it well worth it. (get permanently involved with anyone and you will learn their flaws and see their worst sides).

It's insanely hard to find the right person, your odds in America are worse than 50/50. You know why? 50% of marriages end, but they might get divored more than 2 or 3 times in their life, so that's 3 failures, not just one. And think about too, how many stay together for the sake of their kids or some other excuse? Only 50% end. More than that stay together unhappily. So your chances are more like 20% to be happily married.

>>18
If I understood correctly, you decided to stay together, and to leave, mutually, correct? That's the right way to do it--the mature way. Just because 80% of people have sex, get married or date someone just for hormones doesn't mean they're doing it right. Hell, think about the fact that most marriages will end or  be unhappy, that means even those are bad examples.

So >>1, you can DEFINITELY learn a lot by watching other people. I applaud your efforts to stand back, but don't give up on finding a truly trustworthy friend, despite the difficulties. Ask any parent who takes good care of their kids, they'll tell you it's the hardest thing in life but the most rewarding. And who knows, you might get lucky and meet someone awesome like I did, just by random dumb luck.