"loner"

    I personally think that the whole concept of being a "loner" is just a label. You can be a loner and still be a positive person who is approachable. The thing however, is that most of the time when we hear about loners in the media, the term is often used to represent teenagers who go on shooting rampages at college and high school campuses and who are troubled and depressed.
    I consider myself a loner, not because of choice but rather due to circumstances. I don't have a car, so on most weekend nights, I stay at home because I don't have any reliable friend to hang out with. In the past, in fact, as recently as a year and a half ago, I used to feel quite depressed and frustrated and discouraged when I would be walking on city streets past couples holding hands, sitting by myself at movie theaters and in restaurants, etc. But now, I really don't care. It's all mental and based on the mindset. If you walk around thinking of yourself as loner-loser and start feeling depressed and unappreciated, it will affect you and that vibe will be visible. Heck, I have walked many times on city streets and even at malls past couples holding hands or sitting at food courts and the female partner would often turn around and look at me while I walked by minding my business, right in front of their boyfriends. So just because people claim to have social circles or to be involved in relationships doesn't necessarily mean that they are happy.
    So I think it's all mental.

    People think loners are losers. This society judges people by how many things a person has. That includes friends. A couple of women have told me to my face that my life is pathetic because I hang out by myself. One woman I used to work with saw me in public by myself one weekend. She made a big deal about how I was by myself. When I asked her why she didn't approach me, she changed her story and told me she wasn't sure if it was really me. I think this is how most people see loners.

I then I told the cunt to go fuck herself, YEAH!!!!!!!!!

I'm a bit of a loner now but I don't really want to be that way anymore.Going out with your friends can be fun but at the same time, they can hold you back too.

The girls I have had interested in me, most recently at work,  she would always ask what I did that weekend or whatever. I never had an answer. Didn't say anything. But that was because nothing really interesting happened. But the chicks saw me as mysterious. I didn't answer, but their attraction just kept getting stronger.
If you want more friends then get more friends. If just a couple friends are good enough then do that, but don't let it affect the way you see yourself. We have to learn to stop giving a crap what other people may or may not think about us... and especially trying to play guessing games about a whole class of people, like "women of the world think there's something wrong with me if I'm out alone". Do you know all the women of the world? Would you even want to be with someone who judged you?

some loners still get girls. If you are a loner, then just go large. Look at race car and motorcycle racers, professional fighters, and guys who make a living off adrenaline sports - for the most part, they all get hot women. If you are into something cool enough to attract a large number of women - that can be your social circle, despite being a loner yourself.

I’m a loner too and I don’t think that it has ever interfered with my ability to attract women. It’s probably all in the way you are. In the old Clint Eastwood movies he was always a loner and also very attractive to women.

Actually being a loner can be a big advantage. I’ve often had more than one girlfriend at a time and they typically don’t think that I’m going off to see another girl. They just assume that I’m off being alone. And, of course, I don’t tell them where I’ve been.

If you walk into a place and you are full of confidence, holding your head high, with an attitude as if you own the place, women will see you as attractive - much more attractive than guys that come with a group.

>>4
just tell them you sucked choad

Women are commonly seen with their friends or family. It's rare to see one go by herself. Especially when one lives in New England, it's kind of a weird environment.
Women are by nature very social creatures. Male loners are certainly more common than their female counterparts.

The key to being a healthy loner is being confident and comfortable in your solo ways and being able to be warm and fun socially. Ive learned this through years of painful experience.

I'm a bold loner. I have almost no fear in approaching women. However, because I am loner, my lone approaches are mostly unsuccessful with women. I think this is because women incorrectly interpret the loner. Perhaps this comes from some sort of primal wiring or maybe it's because women value social relationships so much. Whatever the cause, the fact of the matter is that women do not take well to loners, unless of course the loner is a celebrity or filthy rich, then his individuality is praised and lauded.

The loners out there know what I'm talking about. They know that they should be admired too. I mean, have you ever gone to a bar alone? Do you realize how much boldness it takes just to do something like that? Probably 90% of guys are too fearful to do such a thing. Many men wet themselves before getting the balls up to cold approach. The bold man is more masculine than he that is fearful.

The problem, however, is that women do not correctly interpret independence. They deem it a weakness rather than a strength. Until loners figure out how to make women interpret their independence as a strength, they will continue to be sexually lonesome.

I think that one of the cardinal elemants in meeting and dating your fill of attractive women is your ability to socialize and network. Its all about planting good seeds. You tend to meet more women through friends. If you socialize regularly and have the right group of friends, opportunities just present themselves. It sounds simplistic, and it is. The key here is to socialize with the right people. If you hang with a group of 4-5 other loners, you will never get laid. I try to have at least a few good friends who are 'people' guys and have a large network of male and female acquaintances. It balances out my own introverted tendencies.

The guys i know who regularly and successfully hook up are all good networkers. They dont go to bars looking for tail. They see girls whom they have already planted a seed with at some other time, and then take them home.

>>2

This is this thing where women judge a guy by whether he has a social network of friends he hangs with or not, thinking that if he doesn't, then there's something wrong with him where he can't get along with people or keep up associations. But I think you have to define "friends". My ex criticized me for not having any, but to me, a friend is someone very close to you. I've had that here and there in my life, but not too many. The rest are colleagues or acquaintances which some people consider that to be a "friend", but I don't.

I also expect a certain level of quality in the people around me. They're not going to disrespect me or give me drama. In my definition of "friends", they don't give you a bad time and drag you down. If they do, I stop hanging with them. Needless to say, I don't keep associating with lots of people because of this. This time last year I decided to drop a whole bunch of people that I just felt were like a slow poison.

My ex, well... her best friend of the past 20 something years is a bitter bitch who's even pulled some bad crap on her, so you have to consider the source when a gal thinks you're the one that's pathetic.

Like someone once said to me, it's not about the quantity of friends, it's about the quality.

oh good lord

Loner.  It rhymes with "boner".  The rest just logically follows.

Disregard, I suck cocks.

going to clubs alone isn't necessarily a bad thing. It depends on who you meet. A woman who once noticed me by myself at a club didn't hold it against me even though she asked me that question. She basically hit on me indirectly and we danced for almost two hours. Unfortunately, I realized too late that I ended up not saving her number in my cell phone and I never saw her again. That was when I had a car. Most of my best moments approaching women and getting numbers have happened when I was alone.

once I went to see a band with a group of people, and when I went to the toilet and came back, they were gone.  I stayed, because, fuck.  After the band was done, I find out later one of my group had thrown a drink in the singer's face and got kicked out.

>>16
GTFO loser.

>>17
you dumbass

>>18
NO U

>>19
We have a young sister,
       and her breasts are not yet grown.
       What shall we do for our sister
       for the day she is spoken for?
If she is a wall,
       we will build towers of silver on her.
       If she is a door,
       we will enclose her with panels of cedar.
I am a wall,
       and my breasts are like towers.
       Thus I have become in his eyes
       like one bringing contentment.

>>20
lol. underage b&

Most so called "anarchists" wouldn't last a day in true anarchy without the government to protect them. The government that they claim to hate yet are dependant upon. They rely so much on government services, running water, electricity, global trade, and pre-packaged goods. Do they expect all that stuff to stay in anarchy? Most "anarchists" have no damn idea what anarchy and only support it because it's "rebellious" and the few who do know what anarchy is only support it because they just wanna go out on crime frenzies without anyone to stop them.