Name: Anonymous 2008-01-03 0:00
I personally think that the whole concept of being a "loner" is just a label. You can be a loner and still be a positive person who is approachable. The thing however, is that most of the time when we hear about loners in the media, the term is often used to represent teenagers who go on shooting rampages at college and high school campuses and who are troubled and depressed.
I consider myself a loner, not because of choice but rather due to circumstances. I don't have a car, so on most weekend nights, I stay at home because I don't have any reliable friend to hang out with. In the past, in fact, as recently as a year and a half ago, I used to feel quite depressed and frustrated and discouraged when I would be walking on city streets past couples holding hands, sitting by myself at movie theaters and in restaurants, etc. But now, I really don't care. It's all mental and based on the mindset. If you walk around thinking of yourself as loner-loser and start feeling depressed and unappreciated, it will affect you and that vibe will be visible. Heck, I have walked many times on city streets and even at malls past couples holding hands or sitting at food courts and the female partner would often turn around and look at me while I walked by minding my business, right in front of their boyfriends. So just because people claim to have social circles or to be involved in relationships doesn't necessarily mean that they are happy.
So I think it's all mental.
I consider myself a loner, not because of choice but rather due to circumstances. I don't have a car, so on most weekend nights, I stay at home because I don't have any reliable friend to hang out with. In the past, in fact, as recently as a year and a half ago, I used to feel quite depressed and frustrated and discouraged when I would be walking on city streets past couples holding hands, sitting by myself at movie theaters and in restaurants, etc. But now, I really don't care. It's all mental and based on the mindset. If you walk around thinking of yourself as loner-loser and start feeling depressed and unappreciated, it will affect you and that vibe will be visible. Heck, I have walked many times on city streets and even at malls past couples holding hands or sitting at food courts and the female partner would often turn around and look at me while I walked by minding my business, right in front of their boyfriends. So just because people claim to have social circles or to be involved in relationships doesn't necessarily mean that they are happy.
So I think it's all mental.