Over the past year I've been trying to lie to myself, to think on something else, even got laid and tried to fall in love with other girls, anything but admitting what I, deep down inside, already knew.
I love my sister. Not in the way most brothers love their sisters, but in the way a man loves a woman. Not because of some silly fetish either; when I say love, I mean real, "I'll go to the end of the world for you" love.
My sister is only one year younger than me, making her 20, and currently doesn't have a boyfriend. She's pretty, at least to my eyes, but this is not fueling this. It's her personality. I like no other girl this much. We always had a lot of chemistry, it's as if we were engineered to be together. Only we happened to share our parents. I'm sure if we had been born in different families, we would be the happiest couple in the world right now.
Lately, I realized I could not give up on this, but I'm kind of scared. I know this is fucked up. But I don't know what to do. I've been avoiding her for a couple of weeks, and this is causing her suffering, which in turn breaks my heart. I don't know if I should confess my love and face the consequences of experiencing a kind of love that's considered unacceptable in our society, even from her, or just let it pass and die inside.
Help me /lounge, what should I do? I think she may be feeling something similar for me becuase we are very close and she considers me attractive, but I don't know to what extent this may only be wishful thinking on my part. Knowing her, I'm sure she won't be angry at me if I tell her how I feel, but I don't know for sure if she'll feel the same about me. I'm positive our parents and everybody else in our family and community will oppose such love, but if she loves me, I'm willing to face all of them or move to some other country to start a new life with her. But I wouldn't want to put pressure on her or make her feel uneasy, so while I think I should confess, I'm not 100% sure and I don't know to what extent what I think is distorted by my strong affection for her.
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Anonymous2006-12-23 22:24
Live with no regrets! Go for it!
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Anonymous2006-12-23 22:39
Copypasta
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Anonymous2006-12-23 23:03
Koi Kaze?
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Anonymous2006-12-23 23:47
I feel the same way about my sister. She is 7. WTF should I do?
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Anonymous2006-12-23 23:56
I say spare us some mutated children and die a little inside.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 2:32
way to go about it:
1. Send an anonymous e-mail. "Hey Kate, I heard a rumor that your older brother is in love with you. Romantically, I mean. I'm kind of disturbed. I think you need to talk to him about this."
2. If she responds to the e-mail say you're one of her friends.
3. When she confronts you try to make her say something before you let her know, and if she is obviously grossed out say you're relieved because you were disgusted too.
Thank me later
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Anonymous2006-12-24 3:05
>>7
4. If she is not grossed-out, then go for broke.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 4:05
Sis got a big dick?
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Anonymous2006-12-24 8:39
>>2
Thanks. Tomorrow is Christmas, and they say if you confess your love in Christmas and are corresponded, you will enjoy happiness for the rest of your life.
>>3
Nope, I wrote it last night. I expect it to become a copypasta though, but this was the first time it was posted because I wrote it.
>>4
One of my favourite series. I wish it became true.
>>6
Loving her and being with her != having with children with her. And even so, you'd be surprised. The probability of genetic disorders is much, much lower than people think. It was mostly an urban legend created by the church. Did you know one third of the world's couples are related? Most cousins, in Asia (e.g. India). Did you know many influential people in the old and modern world were offspring of siblings?
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Anonymous2006-12-24 9:07
DON'T tell her. There is a slight chance that she might have the same feelings for you, but not very likely. Instead it'll probably just make for an awkward moment and she'll tend to avoid you in the future and think you're a creep. Also, this just sounds like sibling care with a little lust added; nothing more than a temporary crush. You'll get over it.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 9:27
oh come the fuck on. nobody in real life actually sees their siblings in that light.
Conservative estimates are that 20-35% of people worldwide have had childhood incest experiences, 20 million Americans have been molested by a relative before age 18. And look at history: There have been recorded incest relationships since ancient Egypt, and practically EVERY royal family has been inbred to keep power in the family.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 10:38
Nasty Conservatives coming across all high and mighty and fucking their siblings behind closed doors.
>>13
True. But then again a good portion of those had at least one unwilling participant. The believed percentage of incestuous relationships being consentual would be at about 10% (based on assumption of what is and is not reported as factual in studies).
But then again about 98% of all the people in the world have had incestuous desires at some point in their lives.
What does this all mean?
>>1
Go for it. Let her know in a round about way. Anonymous email, letter (NOT hand-written)...anything that you can say you just don't want her to know who you are out of worry of straining your friendship or something.
Then let the cards fall how they may.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 14:00
Stick it in her pooper.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 14:17
I'm >>1. I think I'll confess up front tomorrow. Thanks all who posted, for advice or lulz. It made me think on this issue and see it from different perspectives. I've decided to confess. Knowing her, even if she doesn't have the same feelings for me, she won't avoid me, she's not the avoidant kind, or the kind that would get scared of me if I said that.
While I would love to do what >>17 says, I'm positive it's not just sibling care plus some lust, because lust plays the smallest role here. I wouldn't be doing this for sex, and my sister is pretty but there are prettier girls out there (and I would still like her if she weren't this hot). It could be sibling care if I didn't feel so attracted; I'm even getting this nervous feeling in my stomach when I get too close to her or we're talking about dates and such. If I'm to think of me x years in the future, married and living in a different house, I can only picture myself in this situation with my sister, no other girl has ever rang so many bells and made me see her in that way so much and so strongly.
I'm hopelessly in love with her, and it's only honest, to her and to myself, that I confess it right away and stop avoiding her. I'm not sure if she'll accept or not, but I'm sure she won't reject me and kill our sibling relationship for it.
Guys, I'll tell you how it went. You deserve it for your support.
I had spent a good part of the Christmas day thinking on how to tell her. Finally, I decided to be simple and straight to the point, which is how we always tell things to each other. It would be the most honest, direct, and quick way to tell her, with no room for doubt or screw-ups, as I'd be very nervous when telling her.
In the evening, I discretely told my sister to come outside with me because I had something to tell her. In the porch, I took her hands, looked into her eyes, and simply said "I love you". She was smiling, but she was starting to make a "So?" face. So I added, "not only as a brother, but in the way a man loves a woman". At that point her smile slowly faded out but she kept a normal look on her face. She asked me, "what do you mean?", so I decided to elaborate some more to be sure she got the right message. I told her I love her as a woman, and that over the past year I slowly fell in love with her, not for one particular thing, but for the sum of all the great small everyday things in our great relationship. I told her that I tried to ignore this feeling, but utterly failed, and that ultimately, it can't be that bad if it's love, despite how unconventional it may be. She stayed serious and paused for a few seconds to think, but didn't look mad. After what seemed like an eternity, she said she didn't know what to think or do, and that she needed some time to consider it. She went inside but I stayed outside for a while.
At this point I was nervous as hell and felt like having a thunderstorm in my stomach, but I was moderately happy that she didn't flat out reject me. All I could do is wait, so I did. We didn't talk until dinner, and it didn't feel awkward because our whole family was at home, you know, Christmas gathering.
At dinner, she did something unusual. She sat right next to me, which she rarely did. It didn't look strange because we had more people for dinner than usual, but I still noticed it. However, we didn't talk except for the typical hand over this and that.
But right after finishing, she told me to go to the porch. I felt like a man waiting for his veredict; I don't remember if I was trembling when I followed her outside.
When we closed the door, she smiled, and for a second I thought I was in heaven, but just as fast as I did, she said she's not sure if she can correspond me. Then she added that she was not mad or anything, but that it caught her by surprise. She said something along the lines of "I would lie if I said I never considered you as more than a brother, even if only for a second, but you have to admit getting into a serious relationship with my brother is a bit weird". After a few seconds, I opened my mouth to say I understand it, but she rushed to say that she would give it a try and try to not see me as her brother, because if I said that to her earlier I must have been feeling something strong and I had to have a good reason for it, or something like that. I asked her what does that mean, and she said it'd be something like a trial period, more for her than for me, to see if she could see me that way. Then she kissed me on my cheek, and said good night.
I was confused, analyzing what she just said. Did that just mean she accepted? At least she was not freaked out and she had a positive attitude towards it, so I thanked Santa. I I was drained from the emotional rollercoaster I had just experienced, that's why I didn't go online and posted here.
Today we were acting normally around our parents, as if nothing had happened, but then she proposed me to go out. What? Had she asked me out? Part of me still coudln't believe what I was hearing. And being my good sister, she was bold and direct, with no excuses or anything, just "go out". We just walked and talked about a little of this, a little of that, and then she took my hand and said "So, is this our first date?" I was petrified for a second, then I almost cried of happiness. We went to the centre and did everything you have in your typical light date; park, some drinks, etc. We were talking about anything, just like always, only we were out walking with no purpose other than doing it. It was great.
Back home, before entering the house, she told me she had fun and that our relationship might work after all, we'd have to see. Then she kissed me on the cheek again, and said something like still feeling awkward about mouth kissing but progressing towards it, then went inside quickly.
And now I'm here, writing this mega tl;dr post on /lounge. I'm so happy I could cry. It turned out better than I thought it would, and now I'm dating the woman of my dreams. She's everything I like in a woman, and everything I like in my gaming buddies. I love her so much I could shit hearts. Thank you /lounge for your support, thank you Santa, thank you all, just for being part of the world my sister lives in. I'll keep you updated.
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Anonymous2006-12-26 22:37
Ugh. incest is supposed to be about hardcore sex
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Anonymous2006-12-26 22:41
post truncated, god damn
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Anonymous2006-12-26 22:43
>>40
You can read the rest of >>38 by clicking on "Post truncated".
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Anonymous2006-12-26 22:56
Yeah, can't be bothered. Could you copy and paste the last part for me?
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Anonymous2006-12-26 23:07
I'm happy for you. I didn't think it'd turn out so well, but I guess you were right about your sister. I still think this is an odd situation, but I still wish the best for you. Good luck!
having posted before reading i have to say good luck etc and may you be blessed with many a two headed baby :)
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Anonymous2006-12-27 8:57
op wins
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Anonymous2006-12-27 10:12
pics plz thx
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Anonymous2006-12-27 10:46
what a load of bollocks. at least make it believable maan
also, it's discrEETly.
secondly if by sister you mean someone who is not related to you
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Anonymous2006-12-28 19:15
Again, thanks all for your support.
>>52, I can't believe it myself, but it's happening. She's my biological sister (unfortunately! I know our relationship will never be socially approved). And discretely was a typo ("et" => "te").
These past two days have been great as well. I couldn't go out with her yesterday because she was off with her friends, but I accompanied her on a quick errand, and we went out today. We now hold hands when we're out of our neighbourhood and kiss each other in the mouth randomly (no tongue yet though).
Surprisingly, she has avoided all the "touchy subjects" like what will our parents say, even when I brought them myself, and we keep it hidden at home by unspoken agreement. We've lightly discussed that this is on society's wrong list, but decided that neither of us care as long as we're happy; we always were a bit anti-social. However, I asked her if she's happy with the whole thing and if she's sure about it, because I love her and I don't want to do something she doesn't like, nor I want to get hurt if she's not taking it as seriously as I am, and she said she was serious and she's enjoying it, and that she considers herself in a relationship now. So everything is going fine, and I'm having the winter break of my life along with my love.