Over the past year I've been trying to lie to myself, to think on something else, even got laid and tried to fall in love with other girls, anything but admitting what I, deep down inside, already knew.
I love my sister. Not in the way most brothers love their sisters, but in the way a man loves a woman. Not because of some silly fetish either; when I say love, I mean real, "I'll go to the end of the world for you" love.
My sister is only one year younger than me, making her 20, and currently doesn't have a boyfriend. She's pretty, at least to my eyes, but this is not fueling this. It's her personality. I like no other girl this much. We always had a lot of chemistry, it's as if we were engineered to be together. Only we happened to share our parents. I'm sure if we had been born in different families, we would be the happiest couple in the world right now.
Lately, I realized I could not give up on this, but I'm kind of scared. I know this is fucked up. But I don't know what to do. I've been avoiding her for a couple of weeks, and this is causing her suffering, which in turn breaks my heart. I don't know if I should confess my love and face the consequences of experiencing a kind of love that's considered unacceptable in our society, even from her, or just let it pass and die inside.
Help me /lounge, what should I do? I think she may be feeling something similar for me becuase we are very close and she considers me attractive, but I don't know to what extent this may only be wishful thinking on my part. Knowing her, I'm sure she won't be angry at me if I tell her how I feel, but I don't know for sure if she'll feel the same about me. I'm positive our parents and everybody else in our family and community will oppose such love, but if she loves me, I'm willing to face all of them or move to some other country to start a new life with her. But I wouldn't want to put pressure on her or make her feel uneasy, so while I think I should confess, I'm not 100% sure and I don't know to what extent what I think is distorted by my strong affection for her.
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Anonymous2006-12-23 22:24
Live with no regrets! Go for it!
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Anonymous2006-12-23 22:39
Copypasta
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Anonymous2006-12-23 23:03
Koi Kaze?
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Anonymous2006-12-23 23:47
I feel the same way about my sister. She is 7. WTF should I do?
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Anonymous2006-12-23 23:56
I say spare us some mutated children and die a little inside.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 2:32
way to go about it:
1. Send an anonymous e-mail. "Hey Kate, I heard a rumor that your older brother is in love with you. Romantically, I mean. I'm kind of disturbed. I think you need to talk to him about this."
2. If she responds to the e-mail say you're one of her friends.
3. When she confronts you try to make her say something before you let her know, and if she is obviously grossed out say you're relieved because you were disgusted too.
Thank me later
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Anonymous2006-12-24 3:05
>>7
4. If she is not grossed-out, then go for broke.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 4:05
Sis got a big dick?
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Anonymous2006-12-24 8:39
>>2
Thanks. Tomorrow is Christmas, and they say if you confess your love in Christmas and are corresponded, you will enjoy happiness for the rest of your life.
>>3
Nope, I wrote it last night. I expect it to become a copypasta though, but this was the first time it was posted because I wrote it.
>>4
One of my favourite series. I wish it became true.
>>6
Loving her and being with her != having with children with her. And even so, you'd be surprised. The probability of genetic disorders is much, much lower than people think. It was mostly an urban legend created by the church. Did you know one third of the world's couples are related? Most cousins, in Asia (e.g. India). Did you know many influential people in the old and modern world were offspring of siblings?
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Anonymous2006-12-24 9:07
DON'T tell her. There is a slight chance that she might have the same feelings for you, but not very likely. Instead it'll probably just make for an awkward moment and she'll tend to avoid you in the future and think you're a creep. Also, this just sounds like sibling care with a little lust added; nothing more than a temporary crush. You'll get over it.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 9:27
oh come the fuck on. nobody in real life actually sees their siblings in that light.
Conservative estimates are that 20-35% of people worldwide have had childhood incest experiences, 20 million Americans have been molested by a relative before age 18. And look at history: There have been recorded incest relationships since ancient Egypt, and practically EVERY royal family has been inbred to keep power in the family.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 10:38
Nasty Conservatives coming across all high and mighty and fucking their siblings behind closed doors.
>>13
True. But then again a good portion of those had at least one unwilling participant. The believed percentage of incestuous relationships being consentual would be at about 10% (based on assumption of what is and is not reported as factual in studies).
But then again about 98% of all the people in the world have had incestuous desires at some point in their lives.
What does this all mean?
>>1
Go for it. Let her know in a round about way. Anonymous email, letter (NOT hand-written)...anything that you can say you just don't want her to know who you are out of worry of straining your friendship or something.
Then let the cards fall how they may.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 14:00
Stick it in her pooper.
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Anonymous2006-12-24 14:17
I'm >>1. I think I'll confess up front tomorrow. Thanks all who posted, for advice or lulz. It made me think on this issue and see it from different perspectives. I've decided to confess. Knowing her, even if she doesn't have the same feelings for me, she won't avoid me, she's not the avoidant kind, or the kind that would get scared of me if I said that.
While I would love to do what >>17 says, I'm positive it's not just sibling care plus some lust, because lust plays the smallest role here. I wouldn't be doing this for sex, and my sister is pretty but there are prettier girls out there (and I would still like her if she weren't this hot). It could be sibling care if I didn't feel so attracted; I'm even getting this nervous feeling in my stomach when I get too close to her or we're talking about dates and such. If I'm to think of me x years in the future, married and living in a different house, I can only picture myself in this situation with my sister, no other girl has ever rang so many bells and made me see her in that way so much and so strongly.
I'm hopelessly in love with her, and it's only honest, to her and to myself, that I confess it right away and stop avoiding her. I'm not sure if she'll accept or not, but I'm sure she won't reject me and kill our sibling relationship for it.