I know there's lots of joking around here about lolis and pedos and whatnot, but, seriously, what is the biggest acceptable age difference? Lately, I've found myself attracted to my friend's sister. Thing is, I'm 24 and she's 18 (freshman in college). I feel kinda bad about it. I feel dirty just for thinking she's cute. And I'm not all "zOMG she's teh hawt I wanna sex0rz her," I really like this girl. Should I feel bad about it? Should I try to persue something with her, or just get over it? Would my freind get mad at me for going after her little sister?
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Anonymous2006-04-16 4:43
Most pedophiles feel bad about what they do, and say they "really like" young girls in a non-sexual way. So don't the fact that you really like her in a non sexual way serve as an excuse to put yourself on a moral highground from which you feel you can date someone who is, in reality, too young.
Instead think logically about it. Really, 6 years is a pretty large difference, but more than anything it depends on how you were brought up. In some cases 24-18 would be fine, in others even 24-21 would be too much. The fact you feel guilty about it suggests you should probably wait a few years though.
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Anonymous2006-04-16 4:45
I say hit that shit. Shes 18. Why are you on internet and not getting ass? GO NOW.
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Anonymous2006-04-16 4:47
if people went by how they feel and what they believed we wouldn't need laws
>>5 true. Morals are based on person observation and absorbtion of specific information. With no filters like religion or experience; we would all be fucking little 12 year old blonde white girls. Experience tells us that 12 is not a healthy age to be having sex, so some people decide to go to a higher age bracket.
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Anonymous2006-04-16 5:56
moral arguements are a waste of time considering everyone has different morals, that's why there are laws. Some people think what's legal is morally "right" and some think its "wrong", it never ends
>>6
is not an instance of morality, your experience leading to a conclusion is simply a fact and an action based on that fact. You wouldn't act a certain because its "just wrong", but rather because you had a logical, proven reason not to act that way
a moral decision is one made before considering such facts and out of plain belief, then supplemented by attempts to find facts that support the belief. Everyone's different take on morality make statements like "that's morally right/wrong" a total waste of breath.. no offense
24-18 wow big deal
most the porn chicks are barely 18
And its kind of strange seeing people still use morals to guide their lives this far into civilization, or is it just religious American side?
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Anonymous2006-04-16 8:11
Go for it, 18 is the girls you're gonna look for in 10 years to :)
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Anonymous2006-04-16 9:14
24/18? What is the big fucking deal? Sart banging her, you fucking idiot! Does she have a younger sister?
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Anonymous2006-04-16 12:58
>>9
The fewer people you hurt, the fewer people are going to be trying to kill you in years to come.
But I think the point behind this particular bit is that if \ a 18 y/o is trying to get with a 50 y/o they're either after money and thus will be nothing but trouble, or the have issues with their parents and the 50 y/o is going to have to deal with their partner screaming "fuck my daddy/mommy" durring sex, and if a 50 y/o is trying to get with a 18 y/o their probably looking for someone to scream that durring sex. It's not likely to be a good experience for anyone.
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Anonymous2006-04-16 13:37
>>12
hey if they both like it, what's the big fucking deal.
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Anonymous2006-04-16 17:18 (sage)
>>12 It's likely to be a good experience for both of them.
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Anonymous2006-04-16 19:30
ALL ARE FUCKING PEDOS NOW KILL YOURSELF
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Anonymous2006-04-17 21:43
Dude, people have had 10 and 15 years difference and been happy together. An older couple I know was 15 years apart and they were like 60 or something and still happy. It can work, but the starting age is all that matters really. 18 is legal, so it's up to you so see it through to anything more than sex if YOU want that to happen.
As for her little sister, go for it. I hear a shanking's awaiting you in prison.
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>As for her little sister, go for it. I hear a shanking's awaiting you in prison.
Huh? I took it to mean that the girl he likes, the 18 one, IS the little sister of a supposedly older friend.
my parents have almost nine years of difference, and they have one of the best relationships I've seen. Age only matters if you let it, clichéd as that sounds.
Ratio is more important than difference -- as you get older, a bigger difference is acceptible. Someone 45 going out with someone 35 is equivalent to someone 25 going out with someone 20, or something like that. Which is perfectly reasonable.
I don't know how your friend will react because I don't know your friend. You might want to wait a bit and get to know the sister better. But you might want to start by trying to be just friends with the sister -- while going from bf/gf to "just friends" can be disastrous, if you START as "just friends" things can escalate from there. Takes patience though, my reference on this is my parents, and Mom didn't accept until about the fifth time Dad proposed (after they'd known each other about 20 years). If you're after quick nookie, ignore everything I have to say.
Actually, you might want to ignore what I have to say anyway since I've never been on a date.
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Eclair2006-04-26 22:22
I say ask the girl for fucks sake!!!
Let the woman have an opinion in this you old non-fucking farts!!!
If shes cool with it, then by all means, go on a date or whatnot
If she isnt, say "thank you anyway" POLITELY, and dont mention it again. Who knows, she may change her mind in a few years.
Why the fuck does it ALWAYS have to be about the loser men?!?!?
See what she has to say. Ask her in a way such that even if she says no she can take it as a compliment, and gives you a way to get out of the situation without embarassing either side (too much.)
In such a case, move on. (Continue to be friends, if you were to begin with.) Thinking of it as a ‘pursuit’ is not the way I would personally approach this. Learning to respect another person's will is a good sign of mental maturity.
(I suppose this isn't really answering the original question.)
>>44
I don't have and am not advocating a foot fetish.
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Anonymous2006-04-27 18:32
Once everyone is out of high school, age difference really doesn't matter as both sides are pretty mature
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Anonymous2006-04-27 18:41
>>46
dont justify your pedophile nature >>45
what? english please
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Anonymous2006-04-29 18:02
>>47
See, the pedo- and paedo- prefixes originate from different words; indeed they come from different languages. The former means foot, while the latter means child. For example, there's pedometer versus paediatrician.
English, motherfucker. Do you speak it?
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Anonymous2006-04-29 18:23
>>48
[quote]pedo– or ped– or paed– or paedo–
pref.
Child; children
(Greek paido-, from pais, paid-, child.)[/quote]
English, motherfucker. Do you speak it?
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