>>238 1. durr hurr everyone on the internets is blahb lahblasjdlhsamdas;
"Oh, that's gotta be Bobcat!" "No, sorry... that was Bjork."
2. No.
GET THE FUCK OUT, YOU GODFORSAKEN TRAITOR.
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アコム2005-10-31 23:11
I don't know if im capable to fall in love.
It's not that i don't like girls. I just feel like i have no chance to get a girlfriend, even though i try to convince myself that it's not true. I have to mention that i have mild asperger syndrome. Even though i admit having the syndrome, it's hard for me to relate it to myself. Yet it may explain some of the social failures i make, but yet not.
I just sometimes feel like life is too boring to bother myself with it, or as most of the time it's very shallow.
Why is life shallow, why is love shallow.
I sometimes can feel bitterness towards shallow people, who won't show their thoughts and feelings. Everyone is shallow, everyone is afraid of eachother.
And those who mock me or anyone who wants to tear down these shallow appearances. You have left yourself outside the possibility to feel relieved that you may be accepted.
Yes I know these are just mighty words, and no real action.
I know i'm not good to make reality of things i say. But i only feel that life is shallow.
Even though i show signs, where i interact well with other people. I can't get away from the fact, that i only feel that life is shallow. And i don't want a relationship with a girl, where the purpose is to console my feelings. I really want to love someone, but i don't know if i can.
Am I a apathetic person?
Is it apathy that rule our world?
Is apathy the natural state of emotion for humans?
These may be very philosophical questions, but they're universal.
Or should i see the world in a cynical and shallow tone?
Btw i'm 20 y.o., male
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crasher352005-11-01 7:58
>>247
Listen, it's not impossible for you to get a girl. I know there's a girl out there for you. I know because I've seen impossible things happen. People who I thought would not have a girlfriend in a million years have had multiple. I think you should try, just, being more open with people. Just stay honest about how you feel and I know there will be someone out there who gets you.
I have to agree with >>248
There is a girl out there for you and as long as you keep looking and know that you might get rejected from time to time. If you find that girl, the end result will be worth it.
You make it sound like there is someone out there with a perfect compatible match specifically reserved for his liking. Doesn't work that way guys. It's not some treasure hunt to find the right one, it's a personal relationship. Far more complex than flipping over rocks, which is what you guys make it sound like.
You're right about that. Even though I hope someone will like me for the person I am, it ain't that easy. I realize that I somehow have to make the person I like, aware that I like that person, and hopefully she will respond to my wishes. But the tough part is actually to be mature enough to be able to maintain a relationship.
To put it short, I have to work in order to be able to have an relationship. Which is also is hard, when you have to rely on yourself.
But what I don't know is how to get the opportunity or how to make someone I like aware of my crush.
Any advice?
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Anonymous2005-11-02 0:09
For the past 3 month, I got turned down by three girls. THREE. It doesn't matter how hard you try to work to have a relationship with someone and it doesn't matter what you do. A girl will not show any interest in you as a suitor and only as a friend, if she does not have any attraction.
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アコム2005-11-02 20:39
Then what are girls attracted to? Even though i relize it depends on who you're talking about. I feel confused about girls. I feel sometimes that some girls can't be honest what they feel or what they're thinking. Then I become uncertain what to do, if I should be active or passive?
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Anonymous2005-11-03 9:53
>>253
what are girls attracted to? power, for the most part. they want men who can get what they want, or at least look like they can.
the 'crackhead jerk' effect does tend to exude power -- it's an "I'm so important, societal rules have no effect on me" type thing. these people are less likely to survive in the 'real world', so after everyone grows up a bit, the crackhead jerks tend to be less sought after, and power is often percieved as people who are successful in life. good job, good money, the works. or a reasonable chance of acquiring such.
confidence is important, as it exudes power as well. "I cannot fail at what I want to do" is similar to "I'm so important, societal rules have no effect on me", except it's more likely to be confident without being a jerk.
Girls want a guy that can take control of the situation and not be pushed around. Girls determine things by their emotions rather than facts and knowledge, that's more of a guy thing. If you can get a girl to laugh, smile, and and show that you are confident enough by your actions such as touching, kissing, and holding hands.
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Anonymous2005-11-03 16:15
tl;dr
>>253 Then what are girls attracted to?
Jerks. Drunkards. Crackheads. Gangs. And other street shit.
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Anonymous2005-11-04 8:28
>>256
So what are intelligent (read: social outcast) girls attracted to?
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Anonymous2005-11-04 11:19
this thread is gbs
[e/n]
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Anonymous2005-11-04 12:31
>>257
Intelligent males, probably. But we're hard to find, just like they're hard to find. If only they knew of this thread, which concentrates a considerable amount of worthy males.
What? There are a total of 4 worthy males in this entire thread. And if you're worthy, manipulating context and conversation to get a girl to like you isn't hard.
Who cares? Looking for a relationship for the sake of having a relationship is lame.
Make her want you. Easier said than done, yes, but show interest and then contradict yourself explicitly. Mixed signals annoy females too, sometimes to your benefit.
There's a difference between being a loner and being single. If you don't understand what I'm talking about then you're obviously trying to be in a relationship just to be in a relationship.
There's a difference between being a loner and being single. If you don't understand what I'm talking about then you're obviously trying to be in a relationship just to be in a relationship.
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Anonymous2005-11-06 2:58
About the whole "girls rejecting nice guys because they want to remain friends" issue, what is a girl supposed to do when she meets an interesting, really cool guy that she'd like to be friends with, but for one reason or another(for example, she's taken, their personalities aren't compatible, she's happy being single etc) she doesn't want him as a boyfriend?
Also, as a word of advice for guys looking for "quiet, sane girls:" why not try the anime community? There are quite a few (not bad looking) girls in the club I go to, and they come across as a little geeky, quiet, learned and individualist by nature. Sure, there are some scaaary women in such places, but I figure the ratio of these types to weird guys is about equal. Besides, though a female yaoi fan might seem intimidating at first, who else would actually enjoy going through your massive hentai collection with you? :)
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Anonymous2005-11-06 11:01
Besides, though a female yaoi fan might seem intimidating at first, who else would actually enjoy going through your massive hentai collection with you? :)
What if I don't have a hentai collection, period?
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Anonymous2005-11-06 14:14
>>270 Um, good for you? My point is that the type of girl who is willing to share in the things you enjoy can be found within whatever fandom you happen to be a part of. It's a pretty obvious point, but guys who complain that there are no girls worth talking to on the internet are rejecting a whole demographic of girls just like them.
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Anonymous2005-11-06 17:34
>>271 It's a pretty obvious point, but guys who complain that there are no girls worth talking to on the internet are rejecting a whole demographic of girls just like them.
That's probably because most people within our demographic, male or female, strongly resemble the kind of shit Lovecraft wrote about.
the whole 'nice guy' routine is a half-truth. nice guys want sex as badly as not-nice guys. the difference is that the not-nice guys hide behind the notion that they "don't want" sex.
really, they do.. but they want to be the girl's friend first, and the girl isn't looking for friendship; she's looking for sex.
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Anonymous2005-11-07 16:17
show the penis and you will win
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Anonymous2005-11-07 18:47
>>274
You must've meant nice guys are the ones who hide it. But no. All guys want sex, but nice guys are nice, and not-nice guys are gang trash that should be cleaned off the society, until there is no more society, and only the individual people remains.
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Anonymous2005-11-08 8:33
>>276 until there is no more society, and only the individual people remains.
Holy shit.
Just... holy shit. See a psychiatrist. FAST. I may be misanthropic, but even I don't seriously believe that's a good idea.