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And I completely agree with this statement. The difference is in the intention. Faggot is a word that homophobes use to do what you described. But if one uses the word faggot, they may not be using the word with the same intention. If someone hears them use the word faggot, and in the context, interprets their use of the word as for the oppressive intention, then that is unfortunate. But it is still nothing more than a misunderstanding.
To clear the misunderstanding, the speaker can clarify that they do not intend to use the word faggot in the same way used by homophobes. Another is for the listener to give the speaker the benefit of the doubt, until further evidence of their intent becomes apparent. I find the later to be reasonable. Don't make a judgment on a person until you have enough information to confirm the judgment. If you jump to conclusions, then you are responsible for the erroneous judgment.