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Taken out of the social context of software development in 2012, no, there's nothing wrong with asking if there are any attractive females present. If you asked if anyone else had a "hot programmer boy" in their office, probably no one would be offended, or if they were, not that much.
However, in the context of reality, where we live, and the comment was made, that
is offensive, because the implication is that a female programmer in an office ought to be judged based on her looks, and not based on her ability. It encourages the awful stereotype (really more of a cliche, since it actually is so
painfully fucking common) of the sexist douchebag
male programmer who doesn't think of or treat women as equals. That cliche ends up being how you and I get judged. We have to always keep that in mind. Right or wrong, this is how people see the men of the software development industry. It's on us to change that perception.
The balance in our culture is so far on the side of "girls are sex objects, men are douche bags", that females considering coming into our industry and our communities feel very awkward and intimidated. If you've already steered the boat far to the left, you can't correct your course by simply not steering left any more; you have to actively work to go in the
opposite direction.
We have grown up in this sexist culture, and if we want to get the benefits of a better programming culture, it's on us to actively correct it.
-Xarn the Offender, "How to Grow a Perfect Mangina"