Additionally, if when making the Qiddush, one's intention was not to eat the meal in the same place as the Qiddush, and not only that, but one did not intend to eat right away, but subsequently changed one's mind and ate in the same place immediately, one fulfills one's obligation of Qiddush.
Can a Husband Annul Wife's Vows Before Rosh Hashanah?
Wednesday, August 14, 2013/Elul 8, 5773
A person who wishes to have his vow annulled must come himself before the Beth Din. He cannot appoint an agent or even write a letter expressing his regret at having made the vow, but must appear himself. If he and the Beth Din do not speak the same language, he may use an interpreter, provided that he himself is present. A husband may appear before the Beth Din on behalf of his wife, however, since they are considered to be the same person. The wife must explain the details of the vow that she regrets, to her husband, and he repeats it to the Beth Din.
When mentioning the fact that one must make Qiddush where one is eating the Shabbath meal, Maran, z"l adds in the Shulhan 'Arukh, that moving from one corner to another, in the same room, is considered remaining in the same place. As such, if one makes Qiddush in one corner of a room and then goes and eats in another corner, even in a large hall, one does not have to repeat the Qiddush. This is in accordance with the Rambam and the Rosh. The Rif and others disagree, however. The Aharonim write that even Maran, z"l, agrees a priori, that one should not do so.
The remaining letters of the word Tamim, form the word Mayim (water). The Torah is likened to water, because just like water has the quality of always flowing down to the lowest level, so too, the true Torah can only be found among those who are truly humble.
Since, as we mentioned previously, no judgments are actually handed down by the Beth Din when annulling vows, there are some leniencies that result. We noted that a relative may be one of the three members of the Beth Din and that the annulment may take place at night or on Shabbath, none of which may be done in cases where judgments are handed down. Annulling vows or oaths on Shabbath, however, have specific conditions attached. The annulling of the vow or oath which is to take place may only be done if it is for the purpose of Shabbath. For example, if one made a vow not to eat and now wishes to eat, such a vow may be annulled on Shabbath.
The young Yosef answered that Habdalah shows the distinction between the holy and the profane, Israel and the nations of the world and the Shabbath and the rest of the week, which proved that he had an understanding of the subject. His father, however, was not satisfied with this answer. He would ask him one more question before deciding.
"Why" he asked, "is the order of Habdalah that first there is the wine, then Besamim (scent), followed by the candle and at the end Hamabdil (separation)?". Since the separation is the most important, should it not have come right after the wine? The young Yosef thought about it for a moment and answered that his father himself had taught him that the essence of a Jew is to strive to constantly grow. For that reason we start with the mouth (wine), then go up to the nose (scent), then go further up to the eyes (looking at the flame), and finally, the blessing of separation which is connected with understanding, which is the brain. The father was astonished by his eight year old son and let him hold the candle.
It is possible to annul more than one vow at a time as well as to annul vows for more than one person at a time. If annulling multiple vows one changes the phrase from the singular form of "Muttar Lakh" (it is annulled for you), to the plural form of "Muttarim Lakh" (they are annulled for you). When annulling for multiple people, the form of the second person, "Muttarim Lakh" (they are annulled for you [singular]), is changed to "Muttarim Lakhem" (you [plural]).
A vow or an oath can actually be annulled by simply saying just once, "Muttar (Muttarim) Lakh" (let it [them] be permitted to you). Nevertheless, the custom is to say it three times to reinforce the matter. Nowadays we say it three different ways, "Muttar Lakh" (3 times), "Mahul Lakh" (3 times), and "Sharooi Lakh" (3 times). These are all expressions of annulling vows. In fact, one may use any expression which is understood to express the annulling of vows.
After his passing on the 13th of Elul, 5669 (1909), his son Hakham Ya'aqob Hayyim, 'a"h, spoke in the Great Synagogue. Though he spoke as loudly as he could, the majority of the crowd assembled there could not hear him properly. They asked the Hakhamim gathered there to ask Hakham Ya'aqob to please raise his voice. He commented in his Derasha, that even though his father's voice was heard by all those assembled there, including people outside, such a thing was not possible for a human being. This, he said, was evidence that it was the Shekhinah speaking through his throat.
This applies in a case where the oath was made only about the specific commandment, such as an oath not to eat Massah (מצה), on the night of Pesah. If however, included in the oath were matters that one was permitted to take an oath over, such as taking an oath not to eat Massah at all, then it applies also to Pesah. The reason is that since the oath is valid, insofar as eating Massah the rest of the year is concerned, it is also valid on Pesah.
Nowadays, three men are required to annul a vow or oath. For the purpose of annulling vows and oaths, the men do not need to be Torah scholars or experts. However, they may not be 'Amei Ha-ares (ignorant). The rule is that they must, at least, be able to understand if they are taught. In other words, if they are taught Halakha (laws), they will comprehend what they have been taught, even though they may not be able to learn them by themselves.