Dominating sub

What to do when you're a sub of your own nature but to everyone else you appear as a dom, and doms are also too scared of you to be able to properly put you in your place?

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Your question is too philosophical to give a consistent answer.
I mean like a slut, bitch, you know, the one that wants to be kicked around.
Whether the concept is primitive-recursive, or emerges from the preponderances of other concepts, I do not know.

As I said, you're being too abstract/philosophical. Don't fall into analysis paralysis, I just want a simple answer.