How do I know if it's done?

Okay, I know this is the worst place in the world for advice, but anyway.

No tits, that's why I'm here instead of /b/, duh.

So. I have been in a very intense relationship for the past 9 years. Crazy ups and downs, kid, etc. I am in love. I have put everything that I have into this relationship to make it work. i have been super forgiving, and accommodating and etc. I work, he doesn't. I still come home and clean and cook and etc. And I don't mind it, because I AM in love. And I really want to be with him.

BUT, every while, my dude blows up and just fucking takes my head off. Crushes me, really. More lately... And I just fold 'cause... what's the point. I don't want to fight.
And right now... I really want to take an honest look at everything and decide: am I the only one in love here? Not what I want. If I really bother him THAT much: I don't need the hassle. Am I fighting for something that doesn't exist?
I'm really scared to even think this way, because I don't want it to be true. But I don't want to be lying to myself either.

tl;dr: How do I know if the man I love actually loves me too?

>>40
Yes. Sex him often enough that he no longer cares where you are because he needs a break from the marathon sex.

>>40
You wouldn't happen to be the ``FFP''/Shanley Kane would you? Anyways, the entire reason why you are even so enthralled with him is because he comes up with these difficulties for you, it's the only way to keep the fickler sex complacent in monogamy, so understand this: if he didn't love you he wouldn't do these things that confuse your oblivious and daft self, because he wouldn't care enough to and also he wouldnt want its affect (keeping you under his thumb). Plus also he kind of has to keeep you around for the kid, but he just wants to make sure you don't go around gangbanging niggers in the club everynight and get your kid/him herpes/AIDS from being around you.

I hope this clears things up.

>>41
Although this may be hard to imagine, apparently every night isn't even enough for this effect!

>>42
Sadly, you may be somewhat right re motive...
However, going out every night isn't exactly me, and he knows it. I'm pretty much a "good girl". That's another reason this is so crazy.
>oblivious
>daft
Fuck toy

Ahem. Fuck you is what I actually typed.

oh god my balls it hurts

>>43
going out every night isn't exactly me
Going out any nights is a pretty big red flag for any guy in a heavily involved monogamous setup like that.
this is so crazy
If you would reread and internalize what I said, you wouldn't think it so crazy. Well, then again, wemyn lojiq. Nice fruedian slip though lol.

>>46
Well.
I don't go at night AT ALL. Is that better for you?
Jesus. I make muffins in a fucking apron, okay?
Fortunately for me, I'm not with >>46, and me & my guy had a good heart to heart last night: he apologized for getting heavy & crazy about nothing, and explained old hurts and yadda, yadda, yadda.
i don't know. I guess I'll see if it sticks... I just don't want to get shit for talking to some old guy at a party. Fucking A!!! I mean I get it if they are young and hot, but this is insane.

>>47
Yeah. Fortunately for everyone, no one is.

>>48
no shit

>>47
old hurts

Let me guess, you cheated on him in the past.

>>50
Wouldn't be surprised, bitch sounds like the kind of upright cunt who ends up getting drunk and bent over in a bar stall by some random guy 2 years into the shit, the night before he was gonna propose.