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Nope. We do have a problem disassociating our emotions and our intellect and though there may many reasons for this, number one in my mind is this: From an early age the expression of our emotions betrays us in society. We don't learn to hide them as quickly as most, and we pay for it with abuse and ridicule. Consequently we hide most of them away, and only the strongest surface. Of course being in a world that seems to value social skills above all others, skills that we lack, we fall victim to frustration and anger, and grow more isolated, and most of our communication is an attempt to lash out. Make no mistake, the gentler emotions are still there, but as our interaction with others is limited, the emotions don't develop as quickly, and are often invested in things other than people. Things that don't try to hurt us, like ideas, animals, movies, etc. But we grow. We see most guys lying for sex, successfully, and women who respond. Women who are attracted to these lying, abusive, Type A douchebags, and our confusion grows and our isolation hurts more. At this point, who could blame anybody for playing the game they see others playing. Just saying and doing anything to get the pussy. Saying and doing anything we can to imitate what's "normal". But it's not
our nature. The truth is that as extreme introverts, we tend to be far more idealistic, romantic, and sentimental than our NT counterparts. We just have to feel safe enough to let it out. We do not take intimacy lightly, and if we seem to be just out to "laid them", it's usually because we're trying to be like everybody else, or because, for whatever reason, we can't trust the person we're with. If you want to learn about real intimacy, stop talking about us, and get into a relationship with one of us. Still waters run deep, and in the case of people with "Asperger's" deeper than most NT's can handle. In fact, it's deeper than most of us can handle. Scary stuff.
You're starting to sound as if you've been burned, and if that's so, then I am truly sorry. But please understand that if your experience was a relationship with a cold blooded bastard, and he(she) wasn't just using you to try to seem normal(something that we have all been guilty of at one time or another) then the emotions are still there, and they can be so overwhelming that they can paralyze us. Or sometimes people just plain fall out of love. We're all guilty of this too. Of course I can only speak as a man. I'd sure like to hear a female perspective.