Name: Anonymous 2008-10-14 9:44
You're at the local pub with your mates and you spot a looker that tickles your trousers. You hesitate to confront her but your mates egg you on and to avoid their relentless badgering you make eye contact and smile. Much to your surprise (and relief) she smiles back and tacitly encourages you to start a convo with her. You casually stroll over, feigning confidence, and you initiate idle chit-chat, "Hey, can I buy you a drink?".
Everything is going better than expected - She's cracking up with your lame jokes, she's single, and her leg even brushes up against yours. You want to ask her out but fear takes you by the balls. You leave the pub - alone - kicking yourself and hoping you'll see her there next week.
This scenario sound familiar?
Well, you're not alone. There are several shy guys that let potential bed-buddies go because they're too shy to ask them out. So, we've asked our resident ZOO girls for some advice for shy guys and here's what these honeys said.
Yep, girls dig shy guys...to an extent.
Some girls find it sexy when a you get nervous around them because it shows that you like us and respect us. We would rather a shy guy over a vain, cock head er, we mean cocky guy who won't stop talking about himself and who thinks he can pull any chick in sight. Usually, that's far from the truth and girls know it too!
She's just as nervous as you!
Shyness is not just male-specific because women suffer from this confidence-crushing disease too. One thing shy guys have to understand is that making the move to chat with her is a massive turn on because you've made her feel special by going up to her in the first place. And just because you're shy and showing it, doesn't mean that she isn't. she probably is, but can hide it better. Even if she disses you, don't jump of a building. Think to yourself 'there are worth things in life' and be proud that you did it! Whatever the case, if there's good conversation flowing the nerves will become vanish as fast as chocolate cake at a Jenny Craig meeting.
Tips to squash your shyness
* If you want to approach a girl but are too freaked out, think to yourself that she's just another person and ask yourself 'what's the worst that can happen?' and really, what is the worst? She says 'no thanks', she blurts out 'my boyfriend will be back soon' or she tuns out to have bigger balls than you - literally.
* If you start getting jittery or shakey, keep your hands occupied by holding a schooner or play with your wallet. Don't fidget with her anatomy... yet.
* If she's hinted at leaving and she hasn't asked for you digits, just ask 'would it be okay if I give you a call sometime?' - practice saying it in your mind even!
* If she's surrounded by friends or chatting to just one, go over there and tell them you with some mates and ask them if they would like company/ a drink (offer both girls or group of girls, because just offering the girl you're keen on makes you look like a tight arse and reduces your chances of bed-action.
Hope these tips help but if you still can't take the plunge just think of what could have been if you did ask her out.
Everything is going better than expected - She's cracking up with your lame jokes, she's single, and her leg even brushes up against yours. You want to ask her out but fear takes you by the balls. You leave the pub - alone - kicking yourself and hoping you'll see her there next week.
This scenario sound familiar?
Well, you're not alone. There are several shy guys that let potential bed-buddies go because they're too shy to ask them out. So, we've asked our resident ZOO girls for some advice for shy guys and here's what these honeys said.
Yep, girls dig shy guys...to an extent.
Some girls find it sexy when a you get nervous around them because it shows that you like us and respect us. We would rather a shy guy over a vain, cock head er, we mean cocky guy who won't stop talking about himself and who thinks he can pull any chick in sight. Usually, that's far from the truth and girls know it too!
She's just as nervous as you!
Shyness is not just male-specific because women suffer from this confidence-crushing disease too. One thing shy guys have to understand is that making the move to chat with her is a massive turn on because you've made her feel special by going up to her in the first place. And just because you're shy and showing it, doesn't mean that she isn't. she probably is, but can hide it better. Even if she disses you, don't jump of a building. Think to yourself 'there are worth things in life' and be proud that you did it! Whatever the case, if there's good conversation flowing the nerves will become vanish as fast as chocolate cake at a Jenny Craig meeting.
Tips to squash your shyness
* If you want to approach a girl but are too freaked out, think to yourself that she's just another person and ask yourself 'what's the worst that can happen?' and really, what is the worst? She says 'no thanks', she blurts out 'my boyfriend will be back soon' or she tuns out to have bigger balls than you - literally.
* If you start getting jittery or shakey, keep your hands occupied by holding a schooner or play with your wallet. Don't fidget with her anatomy... yet.
* If she's hinted at leaving and she hasn't asked for you digits, just ask 'would it be okay if I give you a call sometime?' - practice saying it in your mind even!
* If she's surrounded by friends or chatting to just one, go over there and tell them you with some mates and ask them if they would like company/ a drink (offer both girls or group of girls, because just offering the girl you're keen on makes you look like a tight arse and reduces your chances of bed-action.
Hope these tips help but if you still can't take the plunge just think of what could have been if you did ask her out.