I've had friends albeit not many in my nearly 35 years, but the friendships that lasted any amount of time were with guys who were even bigger losers than me if that's possible (and trust me that's saying something). Now, I don't really have anything in common with cool people. I don't even know what cool people do that makes them cool, besides go out to clubs to party. I just go to work, come home, play video games or go on the internet, go to bed and do it again the next day (and that includes weekends, minus the going to work part).
I really have very little interest in other people to begin with (or in life in general). I'm indifferent to most people unless its a good looking woman, and that's the only reason why I'm posting this. The most interest I have in other people is wanting a girlfriend to hang all over me and make me feel important and attractive, stroke my ego. It would be such an ego boost to have a good looking woman be all about me. Maybe by being around cool people their coolness will rub off on me and I'll become cool and women will want to be with me.
There are people I work with who are probably cool (btw to me, cool = popular, busy social life), but I'm not a very good liar and I can't very much say "I want to hang out with you cause you seem cool and maybe by being around you I'll learn to be cool". Pretending I have any genuine interest in getting to know them (especially if they're guys) other than what I can get from them would be complete and utter bollickies and like I said I'm not a good bullshitter.
What about wingmen? Are they to hang out with and learn how to be cool from in general, or are they just to teach you how to sarge? I guess I'd like to learn how to be cool and I've shown a lot of potential to be cool at times, but I don't want to have to bullshit about my reasons for wanting to hang around with people. Any suggestions?
Guys complain so much about women going for losers. I'm the biggest loser you'll ever meet, so why am I single?
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LonleyLoser 2008-01-16 20:38
I am a virgin who has never had a relationship. And I know at my age a woman is not going to like that because apparently all a woman worries about is how well a guy can bang ass. But what some people tell me is maybe I might want to try meeting a woman at church. I am not religious at all, I have very vague beliefs that there maybe might be something out there, maybe, but don't really give a doodoo because it won't matter until I'm dead.
But I would like to find a physically attractive woman who will not be concerned that I'm not good looking myself, only make 27K a year, am not a social person at all beside wanting a girlfriend, and am in my mid-30s and a virgin. A woman who will not mind that I am not worldly and experienced (not just about sex but life in general), ESPECIALLY not mind that I am very clingy and needing a lot of reassurance that she loves me. And I can go to church and go through the motions and say the right things so she thinks I believe like she does. I don't believe in much of anything except just getting through each day, so pretending I believe in something shouldn't be too hard. I know there would be the problem that a religious woman will probably want children and I don't want or like kids, because I don't want the responsibility and they would take away from my "me time", and I need a LOT of "me time". But if she really loves me she will not push me to have kids if I tell her no.
So basically, what do you all think about me trying to find a woman in church?
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Anonymous2008-01-16 20:44
I think >>2 is a cool guy. eh hes a virgin and doesnt afraid of anything
I think >>2 is a cool guy. eh hes a virgin and is afraid of kids
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Anonymous2008-01-16 22:28
I think >>7 is a cool guy. eh does the meme wrong and doesnt afraid of anything.
I think >>2 is a cool guy. eh is a virgin and does afraid of kids
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Anonymous2008-01-16 22:29
SMOKE.
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Anonymous2008-01-16 22:34
I think >>8 is a cool guy. eh knows his memes and doesnt afraid of anything
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Anonymous2008-01-16 23:40
I'm 20 now and used to have "cool" friends, but I was never that happy with them. There were always oppurtunities for me to go out, get drunk and talk to ladies but I was too shy really, I ended up turning them down. The last few years I've been an anti-social intellectual type more into games, music, reading, learning etc. I'm just as happy as before probably, but once you shut yourself off it's a lot harder to get back into the social scene. If I went to hang out with my old friends now I'd definately stick out a lot. I don't miss my old life but I should have lost my virginity when I had a better chance.
"Hang out" is the lie that Corporate America wants you to believe so that you'll spend MOAR money.
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Anonymous2008-01-17 7:47
>>1
I'm like that. Heck, all my friends are like that too. We are like a big 'loser'-group (one of us has gf thought, but that doesn't change the fact that he's still a nerd). But we are just 19 so, I have still time to lose my virginity. But wow 35, and still a virgin? I hope my situation won't be that sad.
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Anonymous2008-01-17 14:30
I am kinda a loser also. I am too much of a prick and emotionally unstable too make friends or maintain relationships. From my understanding, "cool people" are quite superficial. But what the fuck do I know?
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Anonymous2008-01-17 14:57
>>13
as each successive year is a smaller and smaller piece of the total, it becomes less meaningful to give a shit, especially if you've got things to do
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Anonymous2008-01-17 19:26
I think >>14 is a cool guy. eh thinks hes a prick and doesnt afraid of anything