Ephebophilia

When I was a teenager I was sexually attracted to hot older women and emotionally attracted to girls my age meaning I felt love but didn't want to stick it in their pooper, though I did once have feelings for this woman in her 20s. Now I am nearly 22 and sexually and emotionally attracted to girls between 13-16 and sometimes as young as 9, but not women and teenagers older than say 18. I have only had a crush on an 11 year old when i was 11 a 13 year old and a 14 year old when i was 13 and some girls between 15-16. My most recent feelings have been for a 16 year old girl I saw on the bus who don't know and I thought was beautiful. I didn't do anything because I knew someone would take the piss out of me for trying to get a girlfriend on a bus who I don't know instead of at a club or whatever.

What the fuck is wrong with me? Can I condition my brain to start being attracted to older women again? I remember getting off to big tittied round assed women when I was 13 and then looking at girls in the swimming pool and thinking "their legs are so thin, their tits are like little lumps of fat, why is it fashionable to have a girlfriend the same age as me?". Now I feel as though I would be the happiest man in the world to have a cute 13-15 year old girlfriend and to have her snuggle up with me in bed each night.

I doubt there is anything wrong with you.
 

Therapy cures all, except a case of raging hemroids.

I'd rather marry a kind-hearted normal sized girl, but stick it in the pooper of a selfish, chunkier girl.

>>2
So why haven't I ever had a crush on someone older than 18 and why am I no longer attracted to women over 18? If I used to be attracted to them but am no longer what happenned?

>>3
What type of therapy. Do people often go to therapy and say "lol im a ephebophile, put me on the sex offenders list so I am tarred for life and then put me in a room circled full of weird 40 year old paedophiles so I can listen to them talk about how much they want to rape little boys"?

>>4
16 years old is not normal sized, 16 years old is death during childbirth age before modern medicine. That's why people in those times were so into abstinence.

>>5
It doesn't sound like you establish real relationships with women of the ages you refer to AND THEN decide who you actually are attracted to. Every man is going to be attracted to what is sexually attractive, which is a combination of a multitude of things every woman knows of, one of which is youth. Just chill the fuck out.

no such thing as ephebophile, the term is a silly invention, over-pathologization of ordinary desire

say I really like redheads, damn near exclusively.  so I'm rufopilophile?  bleh.  nature doesn't penalize you for being attracted to impregnable females, it rewards you with genes passed to the next generation.

>>6
Ok fine I will. I will out of the need to find an answer to this frustration, but still looking at pictures of the hottest women aged 18+ doesn't turn me on as much as some 13-15 year olds. If it doesn't give me pleasure I don't know what I will do.

>>7
Let's say I act like a creep to get close to 16 year old girls and manage hitch up with one, what will people think? A 22 year old going out with a 16 year old. You might think "good for you", but what about her mother and my aunt who might think it's a bit unusual and that I am some sort of predator? This combined with the fact that I'm pretty much grown up now, it wouldn't be a problem 2-3 years ago but now I'm totally man, with a suit, studying at a business school.

I love redheads.

Get youraself a young girlfreind or whatever and you'll soon relise how fucking annoying they are.
So superficial and immature.
You need to get it out your system.
Go fuck a 16 year old.

gtfo

Since you actually sound serious about this, here's my thoughts on the matter. You might just be going through yet another phase in life--a period of time when the mind is newly enjoying, or infatuated with something. It could be temporary, but here, look at what you yourself said:

>>My most recent feelings have been for a 16 year old girl I saw on the bus who don't know and I thought was beautiful.

You don't have any reason to be attracted to her, save the fact that she's physically attractive. Attraction is more complicated than it appears. And experience does shape what we're attracted to. New experiences or old ones/memories.

Since you know probably as well as I do, that our preferences can change (I never liked dark skinned girls at all, now I can't take my eyes off them) go figure out when and why it changed for you. And don't just stop and think about it for only a moment. The more you ponder a subject, the deeper you dig into the way you feel and think. The more you consider it, the more you train your mind and body to actively participate and be aware of what you're doing or thinking and feeling. The less you think and let your eyes wander the more they'll take control.

Case in point, if you care about some feeling of attraction and don't just shrug it off as meaningless, you're letting your smaller head do the thinking. Attraction, enjoying sex, relationships, love, they're all emotional/mental as well. And so yes, you can definitely change back if you condition yourself for long enough.

In other words, be more conscious about it. Eventually you'll discover what you don't like about older/fuller women. I'm betting that's a key part to it. Something draws you TO young ones now, but besides figuring that out, see if there's anything turning you off about older ones.

Another idea is to speak to real girls/women/friends that have some qualities/appearances you like, and think about why. Giving yourself a more tangible subject will work wonders, since it's easier to be realistic about a real person you know, and that helps to keep away the fantasy/magic of it all.

In the end, if you discover that you just love teenaged girls for their appearance, it's no big deal. And then like >>9 said, you'll eventually see beyond the physical and to their bad side.

It's probably because it's something "new" to you, being taboo all this time

I think if you just accept it eventually it won't appeal to you any more than all the other things that turn you on, that's how it works with me

Why is all this advice and pseudo-advice being given?  If he touches one of them, he's in prison for about 5 years.

You, OP!:  If you're sexually attracted to minors either you stop wanting them, or you beat off for the rest of your life, or you'll eventually get caught fucking one of them and will be labeled a sexual predator for the rest of your life (and will STILL have to deal with the desire).  Sexual behavior is not necessary to sustain your life; you guys in your 20s act like it's next to breathing and eating.

I'm a graduate of the "Louis Wu Behavior School" (We Made It, Crashlanding City).  One of the precepts of the School is the following:

  "I have to get over this sometime.  Why not right now?"

So, either you start committing statutory rape, or you get over it right now.  So, what's it gonna be, bunny lips?  Either fuck your hand, change your demand, or suck the Black man.  CHOOSE!

statutory rape it is then

i knew this 15 year old who wanted to suck me off, now she's 16. :

>>13
Stop embarassing yourself

Rape rape and more rape. And then move to a different country.
YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO GOGOGO.

Were you sexually abused around thar age? 13-15? Because (obviously) that can mess with your wiring a bit.

But that's really no excuse. In almost every state 13-15 with a 22 year old man would be illegal, and the law does not particularly bend in favor of excuses.

If its worth jail time and the title of "registered sex offender" (and every neighborhood you move into and every job you seek will be informed) for the rest of your natural goddamn life, go ahead.
But its unfair to these GIRLS you'd be going after.

Keep it in your pants sir and seek some therapy.

Move to Canada, 15 is legal there.

NOTHING is wrong with you, if they're pubescent with curves and tits, every straight man would pop a boner at a hot 16 year old, it's nature. 

That doesn't mean you have to go rape one any more than you'd run down a 20 year old, if you were attract to mature women.  Hell it doesn't even mean you will, just look at all the lonely nerds on 4chan, no rapists out of them. 

dude young chicks love to bone older guys

fuck shit piss fuck shit piss fuck shit piss fuck shit piss

People who claim that lusting after a teenager is wrong, are probably people that haven't seen a teenager in a really long time. The kind of people who treat their 30-year-old offspring as kids...
 Having said that, you should totally rape a girl in her teens asap.

im nearly 20 and i fuck 16 y/o girls all the time; its only natural

bunny lips, that's so cute

Maybe the older chicks you see are all tattooed, crazy eyebrow plucked, racoon eye makeup, hair-dyed freaks, and that's what turns you off.

OP: You said that you had an emotional attraction to young girls when you were younger. Maybe you are really looking for more than sex and you are looking for an more emotional relationship. You should find someone nice close to your age and actually date them for more then sex and you might get over this.

Ya 16 is legal here its fine, i wouldnt mind a nice 12yo tho

People who have feelings for younger girls are often trying to reclaim lost youth. You are either graduating from college or you never went and your friends are. It's easy to feel regrets for missed opportunities and lost love. When we feel loneliness we can regress to more emotionally comfortable times. It's emo shit but it's true.

It's not really a problem. As people have said, the laws of nature trump the laws of man and 16 is not unnatural. But one of the #1 signs of social disorder is an inability to relate to your peers. You might also be retreating socially.

I dunno what you do about it. But it's a fantasy element that can either become a funny quirk or a dangerous obsession.

Rape is only funny when it's a clown... or a turtle.   

5 you dont know shit about history.

People used to fuck girls under 16 all the time, before the 20th century. Fucking a 16 year old girl is not going kill in childbirth. (Not anymore than a 20 or 30 year old woman.)

Nothing wrong with dating a 16 year old girl, its the age of consent in this country. Its when it gets under 16 that it gets a bit iffy.

I feel the need, the need for weed!

Marijuana MUST be legalized.