Can't get a girlfriend

Good evening /lounge/. I'm really not sure how seriously you'll take this, but every other forum I go to is patrolled by my own friends, whom I don't want to see this. I'm sure you're probably tired of seeing angsty teenage crap like this, but I honestly thank you if you provide any help whatsoever.

I'm somewhat depressed. As a high school senior, I have not ever had a single girlfriend, ever. I have tons of friends, and I think I'm not really considered too much of a nerd/idiot/whatever to be considered unattractive. Part of the problem is that I'm an introvert, and I don't talk that much about what I really feel.

I think I've reached the edge of the cliff. I suddenly started feeling like I needed to be with someone the other night, and soon. I've felt hopeless and lost ever since. I don't feel driven to depression or suicide or anything, but rather just like I've hit a wall.

Problem: I'm a senior that's nearing the end of the school year. I had a major opportunity to be with someone I had a crush on for a while. However, I decided not to do anything and instead gently push her away, because I knew we would have to break up as soon as college rolled around, which would inevitably lead to heartbreak. I'm saving her the pain of it by not doing anything. It really fucking hurts to me to do this, but I really don't want to see her hurt. Therefore, what could have been will never be at all.

I'm waiting until college to do anything romantic. Well, I'm trying, at least. It's getting really damn hard to not do anything though. I've also heard college is one of the worst times to go looking for a girlfriend... if that were true, it really might actually make me depressed.

I just don't know what to do while I'm trying to wait it out until college. Does anyone have experience with this? Any sincere input would really help.

First of all, depression =/= SADNESS or LONELINESS or even HAY IM REALLY SAD HERE. Depression is not an emotion. You are not depressed at all. Don't butcher the word, this is what emos who never had a serious problem in their life do.

Anyway, there will probably be chances in college. I haven't had a girlfriend in quite a few years, and I've felt some similar emotions as you, but it's not like EVERYTHING CHANGES when you get to college. We're all still human. And, on our own.

fuck college, get a wife

It's true, I've never had a single truly bad experience in my life. Maybe the worst that's happened is that my grandma died after a stroke, or hearing my mother scream "go die" to my dad, both of whom I had always thought were happy together (the arguments have continued... usually consists of my mom bashing the hell out of my dad for the most pathetic reasons). I have had friends who have had truly serious life issues to deal with. I haven't. I'm extremely lucky, and I realize that. Sorry if I came off as spoiled.

I just feel... starved, or lonely. A lot of people always say "you're such a good guy, it's only a matter of time," but still, nothing has happened, and it's too late for anything to happen now. Right now, I've turned to watching romantic movies/anime, one after the next. It really feels stupid, but it does let me escape to the dreamy life of these people in these shows, where everything ends up perfectly.

I'm right there with you, man. I get comments all the time about my looks, how funny I am, etc. Of course, no girl(out of the entire two I've ever had feelings for) has ever returned said emotions. Meh, whatever. I don't really plan on going to college anyway, so I'll either be A) working a shithole job or B) an hero.

Here's my advice. You need to grow up. And I'll explain how and why.

An immature man will watch romantic movies and feel bad. Now, don't worry about having done that already (or the fact that you admitted to liking romance in a world where it's looked down on for men). We all need to fumble around and make a few mistakes before we get things right. But, growing beyond your current state is proof of maturing. Being able to look back and see how you're different, and better.

Feeling sad about it, or turning people away, those are small minded things. You know why? Because risk is a part of life. And risk doesn't have to be bad. If you're mature like an adult should be, you date, you break up. It's not that big of a deal. Everyone has to go through that in order to learn that it's just like losing a friend. Only this person was more "potential" than anything else. Oftentimes (not always) a relationship is merely to see where it will lead, and losing that potential/opportunity is the hard and emotionally painful part. But losing a chance isn't actually a big deal. You should keep focusing on what you want and continue to look for it afterwards.

Be future oriented. See that what's best for her--and you--is to find the right person, and you weren't right for each other. Prove it to yourself, especially if she is too hurt or distant to listen. Be realistic and honest about it and it's not hard anymore.

So, once you see that for what it is, it's no big deal. Really. I've lost chances to be with someone great. Do I mind? Yeah, I could have had an awesome life by now--married and probably had a kid soon. But, I still want this in the future, so a missed chance is just a bit of my time wasted on the way to my goal. I gotta try several times before it works right. It's fucking hard to find a person who you could successfully raise kids with.

The reasons you're still single, or break up are because things haven't worked out yet. It takes work, maturity and honesty on your part. Girls like good guys. And they like guys who are more forthcoming. Go for it and eventually you'll discover ones who want to be with you. (Good looks and money are an easy plus to attracting potentials, but remember that's all they are).

>>7
Girls like good guys.
God, there's some retards on here.

>>7
I second that emotion.

>>7
Enjoy your America, retard.

I HATE women. I never had a girlfriend and never will. The only times I got laid was when I paid a woman or promised her something. I'm never going to hold hands with a chick, kiss a girl intimately because we're in love, or any of the other shit that human beings were made to do. I guess that I'm suppose to be happy masturbating every fucking night. I'm a man with sexual urges and can't get with a female. I'm suppose to be alright with that? THERE IS A FUCKING CURSE ON MY LIFE. A CURSE THAT PREVENTS ANY FEMALE FROM LIKING ME. Oh I forgot, I do get interest from fat chicks and I'm not attracted to fat chicks.
I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm going to become the biggest asshole in the world. I tried the whole being considerate thing and it got me nowhere. If people can't handle my newfound harshness, then bring it on. BECAUSE I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK.
I get happy when I hear about some college slut getting murdered or injured in a hit and run. "oh she was a beautiful and talented girl, how could this happen." I don't know but I'm glad it did.

>>10
cool kopipe bro

>>10
This wouldn't sound so bitter if you were high, bro. Just sayin'.

THIS WOULDN'T SOUND SO BITTER IF YOU WERE MY ANUS