What is a man?

In September 2004, I arrive at university. A few days later I meet a very attractive girl who lives in my halls of residence. Over the next week or two we become very good friends and end up spending a lot of time together, watching TV, films, chatting about other friends of ours etc. I very quickly realised I had "feelings" for this girl, oh dear. Then one night I was probably being a bit too obvious and surprisingly she said "Just go ahead and kiss me." Frankly, I hadn't expected that, I considered her well out of my league and was happy at the time to just be a good mate of hers.

So, we fool around for a few nights, but don't tell any of our mutual friends... a few nights turns into a few weeks... still not telling friends. I slept in her room many times (if it's relevant, without sex), creeping out early in the morning to avoid my other friends. I begin to get attached, uh oh. Just before the first holiday she tells me she doesn't want a relationship and we should stop doing things. I feel kinda crushed. I tell her this and end up sleeping there again...

Holiday comes and she phones me all the time, texts and tells me how she misses me and we have long conversations about 'us' on the internet.

Rinse and repeat for 2 more terms.

2nd year of university, we get closer. I still sleep with her, none of my friends know (except one), including my housemates because of our ridiculous "secrecy" thing. We've become closer, she's said she loves me, we've both shared very important things with each other and to all intents and purposes we are a couple.

Yet.

The problem is, and I've told her often enough, that I'm fed up with the secrecy. I want to be able to walk around holding her hand, or kiss her in public (shock horror). Things she'll happily do when away from our friends and people who know us!

She states that she doesn't want a boyfriend and the "baggage" that goes with it. She wants people to see her as single and not part of a couple. Yet she still wants me to sleep in her bed and be there for her.

I'm being taken for a ride, right? I should probably get out of this situation, but again, problem. I don't want to. She's one of the best things in my life, I love her to bits, and yet there's this issue sitting there driving me mad.

Opinions? Constructive suggestions about talking to her might be useful.

A miserable little pile of secrets.

(Post funkitowned.)

>>1
1. Have friend take pictures.
2. Have friend secretly release said pictures.
3. Both pretend you don't know who it was.
4. Wait for her reaction
5. ?????
6. PROFIT!      (...maybe)

dude, she's just wating for a better deal to come along.
She lets you sleep with her because it's more comfortable than sleeping alone.

You're fucked.

>>1
this is a very sad story.  sad like tears, not sad like sighs.

i hope things work out for you, my friend. 

tell us more about what she's like, then maybe we can judge her intentions better.

Here's what you do:

Take pictures of her and release them to the internet.
Then, while she's sleep masturbate on her face, jizz on her cheeks.
During the explaination, tell her that she's been playing games with you so you decided to play games with her. Then tell her that you were the one who released the pictures.

This should insure that this shit doesn't happen to anyone else.

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>>1

Woman does to man what men have been doing to women for all eternity. Suddenly it's wrong. lol.

>>3
Just curious...

WTF does that mean?

>>1
dude, Ive always wanted a secret relationship with a girl, like the two of you are living in your own little world. She has no friends you have no friends, its only you and her. You must be some kind of faggot to be all open and have that feeling to show everyone your relationship with her, but enough talk Have at you!

>>12
Virgin

>>13
butt cheecks wide open for you, mister.  come n' get it tiger