Name: Anonymous 2006-02-07 5:26
I just wanted to know your take on long-distance relationships.
First, a bit of background. I met this girl in March 2004 (for convenience sake, I'll call her JJ), and soon realized I really liked her. But I never said anything to her, for a couple reasons, but the main reason is that she'd been planning to go study abroad for a year in New Zealand. (This was in the works long before I met her.) My thinking was, why try to start a relationship with someone you both know is going to leave? Just being friends would have to suffice.
Even before she left, I never got to hang out with JJ as much as I would've liked to. Then, in the spring 2005 semester, she started working three jobs -- in addition to 12 credit hours of classes -- to make some more money for her trip, so I got to see her even less. She finally left in June.
I tried to get over it as best I could. I would still ask out other girls, even when JJ was still here. She and I have kept in touch via e-mail, though often her messages were few and far between. But JJ's been on my mind a lot lately, and I've realized I never did fully got over her, and I'm thinking that maybe not saying anything was a mistake.
First, I haven't had any luck at all with other girls. To be honest, I'm feeling pretty damn lonely. JJ was really the best chance I've ever had.
Second, JJ recently got an internet connection in her dorm room, and for the first time, we can communicate via IM. (Internet connections are expensive in NZ it seems, so she's mostly just used computer labs or libraries. Also, telephone calls are not only expensive to begin with, but I don't have a land line, and receiving international calls on my mobile would be cost exponentially more.) Ironically, I "talk" to JJ more now than when she was here, and I'm starting to fall for her all over again. I enjoy our conversations so much, I've had no problem staying up really late due to the time difference. She recently left on a vacation (it's summer break down there right now), and I won't get to talk with her for at least two weeks, and I'm actually really bummed about it.
JJ won't be back in the US until late July at the earliest. (That is, if she doesn't find a way to extend the visa and stay even longer, she really loves it there). I don't have any experience with relationships to begin with, much less long-distance ones. (And 7800 miles is a really long distance.) Is it a good idea to try to start something now? Is it even realistically possible? If so, how do I go about it? Or is it better to just try my best to re-busy those feelings? I have about two weeks to figure this out.
First, a bit of background. I met this girl in March 2004 (for convenience sake, I'll call her JJ), and soon realized I really liked her. But I never said anything to her, for a couple reasons, but the main reason is that she'd been planning to go study abroad for a year in New Zealand. (This was in the works long before I met her.) My thinking was, why try to start a relationship with someone you both know is going to leave? Just being friends would have to suffice.
Even before she left, I never got to hang out with JJ as much as I would've liked to. Then, in the spring 2005 semester, she started working three jobs -- in addition to 12 credit hours of classes -- to make some more money for her trip, so I got to see her even less. She finally left in June.
I tried to get over it as best I could. I would still ask out other girls, even when JJ was still here. She and I have kept in touch via e-mail, though often her messages were few and far between. But JJ's been on my mind a lot lately, and I've realized I never did fully got over her, and I'm thinking that maybe not saying anything was a mistake.
First, I haven't had any luck at all with other girls. To be honest, I'm feeling pretty damn lonely. JJ was really the best chance I've ever had.
Second, JJ recently got an internet connection in her dorm room, and for the first time, we can communicate via IM. (Internet connections are expensive in NZ it seems, so she's mostly just used computer labs or libraries. Also, telephone calls are not only expensive to begin with, but I don't have a land line, and receiving international calls on my mobile would be cost exponentially more.) Ironically, I "talk" to JJ more now than when she was here, and I'm starting to fall for her all over again. I enjoy our conversations so much, I've had no problem staying up really late due to the time difference. She recently left on a vacation (it's summer break down there right now), and I won't get to talk with her for at least two weeks, and I'm actually really bummed about it.
JJ won't be back in the US until late July at the earliest. (That is, if she doesn't find a way to extend the visa and stay even longer, she really loves it there). I don't have any experience with relationships to begin with, much less long-distance ones. (And 7800 miles is a really long distance.) Is it a good idea to try to start something now? Is it even realistically possible? If so, how do I go about it? Or is it better to just try my best to re-busy those feelings? I have about two weeks to figure this out.