tsundere=moe?

I have allways wondered what is the appeal of tsundere. I myself am infatuated with multiple characters who some call tsundere. rin tousaka,illya, asuka langly, etc. but i fail to understand what it is about a "mean girl" that turs us fans on soo much. many of the fans are allready suffering from inferiority complexes and having a women like that would realisticly probably drive them to suicide.

please post what you think it is that causes this attraction.

a BDSM KINDA THING. BUT REALLY I DONT SEE ANYTHING IN TSUDERE. I LIKE THE CHILDHOOD FRIEND CHARACTER OR LITTLE SIBLING in moe better