I agree 99.9% with
>>18.
It has to do with choice and self-awareness and perception.
If you have been involved with a traumatic event, it is best to at least admit it to yourself that it was trauma or at the very least that it occured. If you fail to do this, it will become a fetish that is reinforced in one way or another either sexually, with drugs, OCD, mental disorder, depression, ADHD etc. The fact that we have the capacity to ignore an event, to put it out of our minds, overwhelm ourselves with distractions and forget about them is the very reason we must observe the potential for it in everything that we do so we don't repeat our past. "Those who forget their past are doomed to repeat it." Yes, they knew about it back then too. But what else did they know back then? "To thine own self be true." Ah shit! That too? What else? "Do onto others as you would have them do onto you." Shit! How did we regress our way through evolution so quickly? Are there any other things that we may have missed? "I found 2000 ways how NOT to make a light bulb." Well fuck me sideways and twist my pecker like a pretzel. I sure as shit didn't believe that we came all this way just to find out we are back in the 13th century...strike that...12th century...I think...? I hope you get this point. We are only screwing ourselves when we screw other people, litterally, physically, mentally, metaphysically, et al ad infinitum, AMEN.
Two tips that may save those who use these tips as integratable tools:
For every mistake you make, a potential advantage AND disadvantage are capable within. Goodwill hunting. How is it possible to perform this tool? Question answers:
A:"The sky is red." (observation)
Q:"Why is the sky red?" (experimentation)
Q:"How is the sky appearing red?" (experimentation)
Q:"When did the sky turn red?" (experimentation)
Q:"What shade of red is the sky?" (experimentation)
catch my drift?