>>1
They don't have
rest mass, but they certainly induce a nonzero perturbation in the stress energy tensor (which curves spacetime, and thus generates gravity) (they have pressure and energy).
The black hole gets bigger.
>>7
Gravity curves space, etc -> light is affected by gravity. Gravity affects a lot more than just massive objects.
>>8
QM doesn't directly prohibit 0 sized particles. The standard model/QED/etc all assume point particles. The fact that these theories are problematic is part of why people are attempting string theory. If you look at an undergraduate textbook, you'll find that the solutions of the simple harmonic oscillator/hydrogen atom always assume point particles. What a black hole singularity really is like will likely require quantum gravity.
>>9
The surface area increases quadratically with mass, but the "radius" is not well defined. The Schwarzschild radius does increase linearly with mass, but it is a common misconception that this value is the physical radius of the black hole.
The basic problem is that the metric signature on R and T change inside the event horizon. In other words, R becomes time and T becomes space. In fact, one of the spacelike dimensions (T) inside the black hole is infinite.