I remember one of my few attempts at entering a chat room: It was a gay mens chat room, and I chose the name Magda. Some queen at the other end, calling himself Portland (the name of Fred Allen's wife, among other things) announced that this was a gay MENS chat room and that I was not welcome, as, well, if you're a gay man, you must have a man's name? When I informed him that Portland was hardly a man's name (the statue Portlandia is of a woman) I was "flamed out" and other queens were instructed not to talk with me.