Name: Anonymous 2012-04-04 9:43
My son is 18 years old. Me and his mother have been wondering if he is gay for quite a few years. He's never had a girlfriend, and never shown any interest in girls. Back when he was 15, we looked on his laptop's internet history, and we found links to gay porn and also a gay advice forum. Also him and his friend went on a camping trip to france, he took my tent.. When he returned the tent, i looked in it, and there was a empty condom wrapper. This "friend" is a bit of a poof, so i think he's gay. This was when he was 18..
It sounds like he's gay right? These aren't the only suspicions we've had, but the main ones. Family and friends of the family have also asked me if he was gay. Apparently he was seen hugging the same guy he went to the camping trip with in town.
Now, i don't really have any problem with gay people.. Each to their own is my view. But someone so close to me, someone i've tried to raise the best i could being gay.. I somehow have a problem with. He's my only son, and i was hoping he would find a wife, have children, get a job, have grandchildren and continue the family line. It's too late to raise and have another child, i'm nearly 45. So i guess my dream of being a grandfatheris over. I know about gay adoption but that aint the same.
Of course i will still love him, even if he is gay. He is my son, and i will always be there for him. But i'm a bit confused about this whole experience. Would it be horrible if i said i'd be embarassed to tell family members that he's gay? Because thats how i feel. I'm not really sure why he would want to be gay, but i guess it's how he feels. I'm also a bit hurt that he wont be honest to me. We've always had a close bond, and been open about things. And i've asked him if he was gay before, and he always used to say no.
Qs
Do you think he's gay from what i wrote?
Is it possible it's a phase? It's been 5 years..
Should i confront him about it?
How do i become "accepting" of it?
If i sound horrible, I'm sorry. I guess i'm just old fashioned. I was brought up in a very religious conservative background. And was always taught that homosexuality is unnatural and wrong. Sorry about length of question
It sounds like he's gay right? These aren't the only suspicions we've had, but the main ones. Family and friends of the family have also asked me if he was gay. Apparently he was seen hugging the same guy he went to the camping trip with in town.
Now, i don't really have any problem with gay people.. Each to their own is my view. But someone so close to me, someone i've tried to raise the best i could being gay.. I somehow have a problem with. He's my only son, and i was hoping he would find a wife, have children, get a job, have grandchildren and continue the family line. It's too late to raise and have another child, i'm nearly 45. So i guess my dream of being a grandfatheris over. I know about gay adoption but that aint the same.
Of course i will still love him, even if he is gay. He is my son, and i will always be there for him. But i'm a bit confused about this whole experience. Would it be horrible if i said i'd be embarassed to tell family members that he's gay? Because thats how i feel. I'm not really sure why he would want to be gay, but i guess it's how he feels. I'm also a bit hurt that he wont be honest to me. We've always had a close bond, and been open about things. And i've asked him if he was gay before, and he always used to say no.
Qs
Do you think he's gay from what i wrote?
Is it possible it's a phase? It's been 5 years..
Should i confront him about it?
How do i become "accepting" of it?
If i sound horrible, I'm sorry. I guess i'm just old fashioned. I was brought up in a very religious conservative background. And was always taught that homosexuality is unnatural and wrong. Sorry about length of question