Name: SFBE 2011-09-26 21:34
I came out to my family and a few friends a few months ago and I decided not to make a secret out of it to anyone. I changed my 'interested in' on Facebook so anyone who looks will see that I'm gay. I don't think very many people know I'm gay and I don't think this frat friend knows either.
I'm sure he is gay; I've seen him staring at topless boys at school and he acts in a fairly flamboyant way (although I know that is not indicative of being gay). Also, when I was going with him into town once, whilst on the underground I decided to stand in quite a 'flirtatious' way (for want of a better word). As in, we were in a fairly sparse carriage and I was holding onto a rail right next to his head and standing very close to him whilst we were talking. Don't ask me why I did this, I guess I was probably just trying to sort of test him to see how he would react. I noticed he went a little flushed and he kept smiling in a sort of 'nervous' way (again, for want of a better word). It was like he was enjoying the intimacy quite a lot. I also caught him looking at magazines with pictures of Justin Bieber on the front and I started joking about how hot he was, which seemed to make my friend rather happy.
So all this has strengthened my suspicions and I really want to try and confront him about it. The problem is, a few years ago, one of my friends asked him if he was gay and he denied it and got quite angry. He might have just been frightened that someone had guessed he was gay and they were right? I'm not too sure. I want to talk to him about it and see if he really is gay without upsetting him. I thought about telling him that I was gay and then asking him if he was gay but I just thought that sounded a bit like I was coming onto him. I'm not sure if it comes across that way or not.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm just not sure how to ask him, or even if I should. I just feel like if I can show him he's not alone in being gay it might make him feel better (because that's how I used to feel).
Thanks
I'm sure he is gay; I've seen him staring at topless boys at school and he acts in a fairly flamboyant way (although I know that is not indicative of being gay). Also, when I was going with him into town once, whilst on the underground I decided to stand in quite a 'flirtatious' way (for want of a better word). As in, we were in a fairly sparse carriage and I was holding onto a rail right next to his head and standing very close to him whilst we were talking. Don't ask me why I did this, I guess I was probably just trying to sort of test him to see how he would react. I noticed he went a little flushed and he kept smiling in a sort of 'nervous' way (again, for want of a better word). It was like he was enjoying the intimacy quite a lot. I also caught him looking at magazines with pictures of Justin Bieber on the front and I started joking about how hot he was, which seemed to make my friend rather happy.
So all this has strengthened my suspicions and I really want to try and confront him about it. The problem is, a few years ago, one of my friends asked him if he was gay and he denied it and got quite angry. He might have just been frightened that someone had guessed he was gay and they were right? I'm not too sure. I want to talk to him about it and see if he really is gay without upsetting him. I thought about telling him that I was gay and then asking him if he was gay but I just thought that sounded a bit like I was coming onto him. I'm not sure if it comes across that way or not.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm just not sure how to ask him, or even if I should. I just feel like if I can show him he's not alone in being gay it might make him feel better (because that's how I used to feel).
Thanks