Rape victim

me and my boyfriend were having sex the other night, and he asked me for anal. I've done it once before with him and didnt really enjoy it but it didnt hurt so i thought it would be fine again, not realising last time i dont it i was very drunk which must have helped alot.

this time it was so so painful even with lube (he is very big i have trouble takin him normally sometimes).

I kept tellin him it was hurtin and he was sayin he wud take it gentle, it was hurtin that badly i started cryin and shaking, and he kept asking me if it was hurtin and i kept sayin yes. this went on for about 10 minutes and he eventually stopped and i ran to the bathroom cryin and wouldnt let him touch me for the rest of the night.

i eventually told him the next day why i was so quiet and unresponsive, that he had hurt me in more ways than one. one doin it, then 2 it hurt me to think he didnt care and still done it when i was upset and in pain.

this from the man that has said from day one that i am the one,he will marry me, and we will have kids, we are meant to be together.

then he goes and treats me like a toy...........

i dont no what to do, i could never carry on wit something if i new it was hurting someone.

im not sure i believe he loves me after this, i am so close to finnishin it, i would have already if it wasnt for him begginin for forgivness and cryin.

The Global Times highlights an interesting case that caught our attention yesterday.

A 42-year-old security guard at a fitness club in Beijing was sentenced to one year behind bars for raping an 18-year-old male colleague in the dormitory, but prosecutors had a tough time dealing with this case because there is no law against anal rape in China!

Here's the problem: According to the Criminal Law of the People's Republic of China, rape is very narrowly defined as "a man's penetration of the vagina without the woman's consent". The anal rape by a man of a woman is covered separately under "sexual molestation", but there is technically nothing in the law to prosecute a man who has anally raped another man!

In this particular case, prosecutors eventually charged the security guard for "committing intentional injury" to his victim. After he was found guilty, Zhang was ordered to pay Li RMB20,000 as compensation and put behind bars for a year.

Shanghai-based lawyer Zhou Dan, who specialises in LGBT- and HIV-related cases, laments the loophole in the law on sexual assault between two men or two women. "Some people take advantage of that and remain on the street after sexual assaults if the victim suffers no substantial injuries," Zhou told the Global Times.

Here's hoping that China will soon implement gender-neutral laws, not just for sexual assault, but for all other laws in its criminal code.