Name: Anonymous 2007-06-14 4:45 ID:XfIyZhow
Hey amigos
If there's one thing I hate it's that voice inside of me that puts me down, tells me I'm no good, says "You don't have a chance with this girl, look at her!". At school I was bullied because of my weight...note: that REALLY doesn't help.
Instead of moaning about how bad life was I looked for a way to escape the **** I was getting.
Thanks to eating right, weight lifting and regularly beating the s*8t out of a punch bag for exercise I dug myself out of that tortuous hole of self doubt. I did not improve myself for women, I improved myself for me; so that when I looked in the mirror I would fall in love hehe. This in itself makes you more comfortable and more confident.
Risk: Narcissism lol
However I would love to say that voice is COMPLETELY gone. God! what would I give?
It does still rear its ugly head from time to time.
So I developed a few techniques that have worked for me. They are mental techniques for squashing out that sonofa***** voice in my head and I hope they can work for you.
Firstly, I stood back and looked at it logically. "What the f**k was I doing listening to a voice in my head!". By its very nature this voice is weak, its not loud or powerful, it is niggling, and it only niggles when your mind cluttered.
Secondly, it is possible to think too much. Its scary how within seconds I could look at a girl, decide she didn't really like me, shy away from any advances and blow my chances from here to kingdom come.
There was no concrete evidence, just that niggling voice.
So, when I found myself 'over thinking' I kept popping a thought of my own into my head. My own weapon, and that was "white paper".
Nuts? I completely understand. But it works because white paper represents clarity for me; what is more clear than the whiteness of a blank piece of paper?
The niggling voice, the fear, too much imagination; all cloud your thoughts and, until you can attain clarity, they persist then finally ruin you.
To back this up I spend 15 minutes of my time before sleep to meditate and 'clean' my mind. Relaxing, just as with any meditative technique, is the beginning and there is no special position, just relax and STOP THINKING SO MUCH!
Upon breathing in I think; "white". Upon breathing out I think; "paper". The only other thing that should enter your head, other than these words, is your breathing pattern which should be slow and deep, in and out.
I am speaking from my own experience. It does NOT hurt to try it for yourself.
and like i said i genuinely hope this works for you.
If there's one thing I hate it's that voice inside of me that puts me down, tells me I'm no good, says "You don't have a chance with this girl, look at her!". At school I was bullied because of my weight...note: that REALLY doesn't help.
Instead of moaning about how bad life was I looked for a way to escape the **** I was getting.
Thanks to eating right, weight lifting and regularly beating the s*8t out of a punch bag for exercise I dug myself out of that tortuous hole of self doubt. I did not improve myself for women, I improved myself for me; so that when I looked in the mirror I would fall in love hehe. This in itself makes you more comfortable and more confident.
Risk: Narcissism lol
However I would love to say that voice is COMPLETELY gone. God! what would I give?
It does still rear its ugly head from time to time.
So I developed a few techniques that have worked for me. They are mental techniques for squashing out that sonofa***** voice in my head and I hope they can work for you.
Firstly, I stood back and looked at it logically. "What the f**k was I doing listening to a voice in my head!". By its very nature this voice is weak, its not loud or powerful, it is niggling, and it only niggles when your mind cluttered.
Secondly, it is possible to think too much. Its scary how within seconds I could look at a girl, decide she didn't really like me, shy away from any advances and blow my chances from here to kingdom come.
There was no concrete evidence, just that niggling voice.
So, when I found myself 'over thinking' I kept popping a thought of my own into my head. My own weapon, and that was "white paper".
Nuts? I completely understand. But it works because white paper represents clarity for me; what is more clear than the whiteness of a blank piece of paper?
The niggling voice, the fear, too much imagination; all cloud your thoughts and, until you can attain clarity, they persist then finally ruin you.
To back this up I spend 15 minutes of my time before sleep to meditate and 'clean' my mind. Relaxing, just as with any meditative technique, is the beginning and there is no special position, just relax and STOP THINKING SO MUCH!
Upon breathing in I think; "white". Upon breathing out I think; "paper". The only other thing that should enter your head, other than these words, is your breathing pattern which should be slow and deep, in and out.
I am speaking from my own experience. It does NOT hurt to try it for yourself.
and like i said i genuinely hope this works for you.