Its not easy to not be quiet or shy

I have a problem with always being a quiet person. Everyone says that you just have to start more conversations and you will just start talking more but I don't think this is the case. I have just always been told by my friends and everyone that I am quiet and never say anything. I have moments where I do talk more than others but I want to just be more outgoing and not be quiet. I dont know what to do but its very frustrating. It gets to be a combination of not knowing what to say and then running out of things to talk about. I always think to myself how good it would be to just One of my best friends is the complete opposite of me. He is outgoing, jokes around alot, and has no problem talking with people and holding conversations.

I dont know if theres any books or anything anyone can suggest but this problem is getting serious and I think it really restricts me from meeting new people and meeting women and I getting depressed over it. I know I have alot of things going for me that I could attract women but they would never know what you have to offer if you can't communicate more. Its not that I am a social outcast with little outside communication but I just want to be more outgoing and alot of advice I received hasn't really worked for me. Maybe I just need to try harder but any help would be appreciated

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ROFL. Just fucking accept that fact that your a quiet cunt. I know I did. It takes too much energy to be social. Plus, you won't have to worry about any fucking social problems anymore. Hell, I'm actually happier now when I'm not around ppl. ROFL. Sad but true.

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You're alright mate.

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be an hero

The only thing I've found to be helpful is to treat new people as if they're one of my existing friends.

If you think about it, around people you've known for ages you don't stop and think before you talk. Well, not the extent that you think things like "What should I talk about? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I run out of stuff to talk about?" None of those questions get in the way. So I just go on talking to new people as if I already know them and they know me.

What holds you back may be the source of the problem, but in my case it's something else too. It's having a lack of things in common with them. At college they talk about getting drunk, doing drugs, going to parties and that just isn't what I like to do. But hey, if it works in your case, use that. Pick whatever you have going for you, like you said, and use that as a common link between you two.

Thirdly, don't get discouraged when people ignore you or don't like you for whatever reason. When it bugs me I try to recall that all I need is one great friend (or girlfriend) and it's plenty to make a person happy. So remember that you gotta sort through a lot of people in order to find the good ones. It takes time, so look ahead to the end result instead of seeing where you are now.

Poster number 10 gives good advice.

Of course, you may just be a naturally introverted kind of person. That doesn't mean you can't socialise a lot, but it may come less naturally to you.

To add to the other guy's advice, I'd suggest trying to focus on how you can make the social interaction satisfying for yourself as opposed to what's proper, or how things are "supposed" to go.