What's so wrong with rape?

I just don't get it. How bad can some genital stimulation be? How is it any worse than someone holding you down for 10mins? How much can you punish someone for it? Isn't it like punishing someone for forcefully feeding you a very delicious meal when you didn't want to?

I don't think it's about not being in control for those 10-15mins. We are controlled all our lives (by parents, teachers, government etc..) for things which effect us much more and are much less pleasurable than genital stimulation.

As far as the psychological damage is concerned, it's just BS made up by society. If the victims aren't socialized into thinking how bad it really is I don't think they would really give a shit (speaking from experience). Socializaion are supposed to help us from getting hurt not make up stuff which has no real basis. If it has no physical or logical consequence, I don't think it should even be considered a crime (all other crimes like murder, theift etc. have legidimate direct or indirect physical basis).

(assume liberal use of lubricant, a condom and no physical abuse for the length of this discussion. Physical abuse is a seperate crimes and should be dealt with seperately)

In between 1st and 2nd grade a girl took me to some place private and played with my junk.  I didn't really understand it at the time, but it's not like it was a big deal.  New experience, no trauma.  Just another day on the play ground, big deal.