Name: Anonymous 2006-05-03 2:25
Well, how to start. I don't know if this is the sort of thing we can talk about here, but oh well.
A few years ago when I was 14 (I'm 18 now), I met a girl named Heather. I didn't have any sort of normal relationship with my parents and had few friends, and I hadn't been loved by my family. So, meeting this kind and thoughtful girl (who was 16 at the time) was a dream come true. Even my father treating me badly seemed like a minor inconvenience because Heather made everything better. Despite my being young, I knew that I was in love with her. I had felt lust and passion before but this was distinctly different, I wanted to be with her forever.
And finally, something I had been dreading happened. My controlling father forbid me to have any contact with Heather whatsoever. This experience, needless to say, devastated me and in fact change my entire world outlook. But that's another story. For a long, long time I waited for Heather. Eventually I contacted her again, but by this time an old friend had convinced her to be with him. However, her and I stayed friends (and are to this day).
After this old friend cheated on and abused her a few months later, she left him. I wasn't able to talk with her for a month or two, but by the time I was again she was with a really nice guy, Steve. She is still with him today, and I think their relationship is fairly serious (even though she doesn't see him very often). I think she is happy with him, and I wouldn't want to ruin someone else's good relationship. Which brings me to my question.
What should I do about this situation? I love this girl so much, guys. It's not something I can really describe. These past few years my thoughts have constantly turned to her and other relationships I've tried being in have not worked out at all. They just weren't real compared to being with Heather. They paled in comparison. Any advice on how to handle this, would be appreciated.
A few years ago when I was 14 (I'm 18 now), I met a girl named Heather. I didn't have any sort of normal relationship with my parents and had few friends, and I hadn't been loved by my family. So, meeting this kind and thoughtful girl (who was 16 at the time) was a dream come true. Even my father treating me badly seemed like a minor inconvenience because Heather made everything better. Despite my being young, I knew that I was in love with her. I had felt lust and passion before but this was distinctly different, I wanted to be with her forever.
And finally, something I had been dreading happened. My controlling father forbid me to have any contact with Heather whatsoever. This experience, needless to say, devastated me and in fact change my entire world outlook. But that's another story. For a long, long time I waited for Heather. Eventually I contacted her again, but by this time an old friend had convinced her to be with him. However, her and I stayed friends (and are to this day).
After this old friend cheated on and abused her a few months later, she left him. I wasn't able to talk with her for a month or two, but by the time I was again she was with a really nice guy, Steve. She is still with him today, and I think their relationship is fairly serious (even though she doesn't see him very often). I think she is happy with him, and I wouldn't want to ruin someone else's good relationship. Which brings me to my question.
What should I do about this situation? I love this girl so much, guys. It's not something I can really describe. These past few years my thoughts have constantly turned to her and other relationships I've tried being in have not worked out at all. They just weren't real compared to being with Heather. They paled in comparison. Any advice on how to handle this, would be appreciated.