What an embarassing experience...

Does this kind of shit ever happen to you guys? It always happens to me. This is a 100% true story BTW.

I was on a packed flight today, and I just happened to sit in a row facing a hot blonde chick and a bunch of her guy friends.

I noticed the chick was hot, so I tried not to look at her, in case she catches me staring at her breasts. So I kept my head down throughout the flight.

After a while, I hear them say:

"Hey, check out that guy, he won't raise his head to look at you."

"Maybe you should do a lap dance for him."

So the chick laughs, stands up and starts gyrating her ass in front of my face. Of course at this point I was feeling really self conscious, and I kinda stared at her ass a bit, but I still didn't say anything.

"Oh look!! He looked up!! He looked at your ass!!" Then they all laughed.

Then suddenly she pats me on my knee: "hey, you wanna play the peanut game with me"?

I was completely embarassed and didn't know what to say...so I kinda muttered "uh....what's the peanut game"?

So she pulls down her tshirt to expose her cleavage and says "well, you have to try to throw a peanut in here".

So I did.

Then she and her friends had another big laugh. Some of them even high fived me. And I just kinda sat there quiet and red in the face, not knowing what to say.

"Hey, you think he'll be ok?"

"I think you scarred him for life, Alicia."

Why the fuck does this always happen to me? Why can't people just leave me alone?

What the problem is is that you're too shy.

A) If you weren't so self-conscious and still enamored with women in a child-like manner, you'd feel perfectly comfortable looking at a hot girl in passing much as you would any other person. Don't be so silly about stuff like that and you won't put yourself in such scenarios.

B) Once you got there, it was clear the other guys just wanted you to loosen up and perhaps have a laugh at your expense, in which case the only option is to join in. If you can't have a laugh at yourself, you either 1) look like an oversensitive pisswad who gets pissed off, or 2) you look like a totally insecure weirdo afraid to react. Neither are acceptable or healthy. You shouldn't have played starstruck and just been like "oh, yeah..heh" and tossed a peanut at her etc. If I know people, it doesn't sound like they were being malicious per se, they were just caught suprised by how blatantly guarded you were acting and wanted you to loosen up.

While I can't say I relate to your insecurities to the same degree, I've definitely dealt with similar types of fear/insecurity and learned to overcome it. Never been in a situation as you described, but I think its pretty obvious where the problem started and where you failed in dealing with it. You paint a victims picture of yourself, even in pedestrian settings, you get made a victim of. Just learn to stop wearing your insecurities on your sleave and you won't encounter similar problems..