I don't want sex from wife

I like porn.  I like dirty jokes.  Sometimes, just watching reruns of baywatch gives me a stiffy.  I can't imagine that I'm not a honry dude.

But sex with the wife just don't appeal to me anymore.  After 1000 times and four years, it just gets kinda repetative.  She won't even try any "games" to keep it fresh.  But that would be okay, if I could at least get what I want out of it.  We culd take turns doing each other the way we want to.  But she nags about everything.  It's always: honey, have you paid the bills yet?  honey, have you cleaned the car yet?  honey, have you done the dishes yet?  honey, do you have to watch football?  honey, do you really need to go out with your friends this weekend?  honey, give me a foot massage.  honey, that tie is ugly.  honey, im prettier than your coworkers, right?  honey, you don't think anybody else is attractive, do you?  honey, why do you want to be on the computer when you could talk with me.  I get bothered every minute, and its always a complaint.  Always the whiney voice.  Always the nagging.  And then she wonders why I'd rather go to happy hour and work on the car than spend time with her.  Call me a fag, but i'm not putting my cock in any female who complains about everything even while we're doing the deed!

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I know how that feels. It's hard to get out of that situation. Like always, try talking to her about it seriously - "Hey hey hey, stop the honey-do-this honey-do-that thing, I'm really tired about it and it's becoming a problem. I get things done, you don't have to nag me every minute about all them." As for sex, again, you should talk to her... telling her not to feel wrong or unwanted or anything, but that sex gets [NOT boring, don't use this word] repetitive, and there's other stuff you could try. Try to get her to watch porn. Go smoothly from standard porn to hardcore stuff. Maybe you could try to get her to watch "weird, amazing, impacting stuff you found in the net", not as porn, but as impact stuff, if she likes this kind of thing. Then you can get her interested into kinkier stuff and see how she reacts to estimate how much can you push the porn.

I'd try to avoid divorcing at all costs. You married her, right? Then both of you must've felt something. Try to bring that back. Why has that changed? She's the same person you married. And you're the same person she married. Your problems are pretty common - I'd say more than half of couples have experimented both (one of the two wanting to go further in sex, and one of the two nagging the other constantly).

Remember talking is always the best thing you can do. It's honest with you, honest with her, and usually gets stuff fixed, or at least improved towards your position. It avoids trouble and misunderstanding. But do not nag her about it with less important remarks, that won't work - you need to talk to her very seriously and tell her everything you feel about the nagging, making it sound very important (because it is).

Good luck to you and your wife,
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