I am so clueless

Yeah...uhhh...guys I'm new to the text threads XD;; so I think I may have posted my new thread as a reply. I'm sorry @_@

 Anyhow here's my problem;


I'm having some problems with my MSN messenger. For some reason it always signs me on as offline/invisible :/ I don't know why, and I've tried messing with the settings to see if I could fix it, but I couldn't find anything that applied to that.

Sure, I can just manually make myself appear online, but it auto logs me in, and I don't notice that it's offline. -_-; Then I have family members shitting themselves, asking me why I'm never online and crap. :/ any help would be much appreciated, Google didn't help, I really did try to find some help x_X and I know this is probably a very simple question, but don't flame my lameness please.

Quoting my friend;"I always thought there was an option somewhere that lets you choose what mode you want when you initially sign on"

That's what I'm looking for too, and I can't see SHIT!